Intimacy query

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Which is most intimate blow job or sex?
Going down on her or sex?
Does it only matter where feelings are involved?
Not an affair question but a difference of opinion and wondered if male/female thing?

As a man I would say going down on her is first as you can see, smell and taste everything. Sex can be a fumble in the dark and not actually see anything. To receive a blow job would be last for me.

As a woman dating a woman I've got to say oral every time for me. I'd say it was much more intimate.

I would say that oral sex is less intimate than PIV for the recipient where the giver insists on lying in the same direction - hello XH, I'm up here!

I would say that oral sex is more intimate than penetrative sex. One of my housemates at uni was religious and didn't believe in sex before marriage but was apparently 'allowed' to do 'everything but'. I remember questioning on him that surely that was far more intimate and I didn't really understand why that was ok but full sex wasn't.

Oral more intimate, for sure. It is also more about giving - piv sex can be quite selfish.

I'd say the most intimate act for any couple is masturbating together and trying to reach orgasm at the same time. And you both have to keep your eyes open!

I agree Ford - being watched masturbating / masturbating together would be my most intimate acts.

Followed by being gone down on, giving a blow job, proper snogging with PIV last of all!

I think oral is more intimate but DP thinks PIV is.

Depends what kind of PIV it is. At the risk of sounding terribly vanilla, I feel missionary is the most intimate due to the full body contact, eye contact, sharing breath etc.