Sex & Menopause

[Winniethepooer]

I have zero sex drive.

It went after my last child,was born, nearly 3.5 years ago.

Sex no longer feels the same. I can't really feel anything. It takes ages to climax & its very week when/if i do.

I never feel any urge to have sex or masturbate.

I've just started HRT as I'm perimenopausal. Im 42.

Will this ever change?
What can i do to improve things?

I was like you, the more you have the more you want was true in my case. It's in my head that kicks it off if you see what I mean. Not worrying about my body anymore was a huge help. Its awful when the hormones drop, I'm in that zone at the minute, I am 40 peri-meno and hrt isn't for me right now cos my mum had breast cancer. Hope your okay OP, keep working at it if you want to be active, what about that new gel they are advertising on TV? Would that help?

Read 'Come as you are' - really insightful into sex drive and very empowering.

By the way you are not alone. I suspect it's evolutionary - if women too old to reproduce had high libidos and snaffled all the good sperm then that wouldn't be great for survival - but it's pretty depressing. It's like suddenly going off chocolate or wine.

Thanks for tbe replies.
I rarely watch TV so not sure about tbe gel you referred to. I've started HRT so that might help.

I tbink its just part & parcel if getting older. I'm not bothered by it but i presume my partner is...

Its not just part and parcel of ageing, and you are really young! You could try vitamin supplements, b vit complex is good, as well as the hrt, and get your thyroid levels tested - I was your age when my thyroid crashed - same symptoms

Thyroid levels, b12, ferritin and testosterone I'm on testosterone gel and I've got a very good sex drive. I've had a full hysterectomy so am fully menopausal. I'm 44 and way too young not to be bothered! So are you. What type of her are you on?