DP lost interest

[Lavenderfly]

My DP rarely shows an interest in sex.

Background: together 5 years. A child (mine) from previous rel. one ectopic pregnancy and one miscarriage in early days, but no lasting emotional effects. This has been happening since May this year.

He's not cheating. We are having other difficulties but I feel that sorting out the sex issue will help with some of our frustrations.

We DTD once every 6 weeks or so. Im on the pill and it has unpleasant side effects, I regularly groom on the off chance I will get lucky, I try to subtly initiate, wear fancy undies, make innuendo suggestions. It's like he is stupid, but he isn't. I feel like I cannot be bothered with any of this stuff as it is pointless.

I have tried to talk to him about it on a serious level, but he doesn't seem to think there's a problem. It makes me feel like I'm going mad.

What do I do? Short of jumping on him?!?

I think he is very lucky having you!!

I swear to Deity my fanjo is not far off eating some poor hapless person on the street

Really?

Communicate. Say this is becoming a major issue for you. Explain to him what you’ve written here. Ask him to go and talk to someone if there’s a problem (Relate do sexual counselling).

Men don’t get subtle hints. Just go up to him and say take me now big boy and that should work.

I've tried various methods to communicate, :( I'm starting to think that I have to just accept this as the comfortable stage in a relationship. Buy a RR, or whatever the current device is for a celibate-ish woman in her 30s :(

Is he stressed? I'd try to understand why a bit more and agree, they don't get subtle hints at all, I think you will actually have to jump him.

Exactly the same here! DP and I have been together 2 years and gone from sex every time we see each other to once every couple of weeks.
Up until fairly recently I only had to flash him a bit of nipple or lacy pants and he’d have been up me like a shot.
It’s pissing me off TBH and I’ve tried everything to get his attention. I’m starting to worry he doesn’t fancy me anymore? I’m looking in the mirror judging myself and feeling disgusting because I can’t work out why he’s not interested anymore. When we have had sex recently I feel like he feels he’s obligated to if that makes sense?
He’s stressed about work but he used to take that stress out on me
I’m devastated. I’m a very sexual person and have a very high sex drive and this is killing me

I’m the same I’m really into lots of sex I’ve tried hard to make it happen but it dosnt help. I’m 23 he’s always to tired he knows it’s an issue and has said he will make effort but it will probably be the minimum x