Please help!

[Hotpinkangel19]

This is kind of embarrassing.... my DH would like me to initiate things more... messages as he works away a couple of nights. I would like to do this but feel a bit self conscious... any tips would really help me! Thank you.

To me it's most important to be authentic about it and don't go all porny if that just not you

If you have been thinking about sex then tell him what you've been thinking about and when and how it made you feel. If like most women you were thinking about Brian from next door rather than your husband just substitute

Sending sexy gifs or photos copied from the internet can be fun example: media3.giphy.com/media/1HxRDPWBwsF7G/giphy.gif

Or even photos of yourself if you feel brace, don't have to be pornographic, just perhaps hint of nudity (your feet in the bath or your lips for example)

Screenshots of underwear that you like or toys you want?

Have fun and don't worry about doing it 'right' - hopefully you can get a thrill from it too

I love it when my partner sends me a sexy photo or texts me to tell me what saucy thoughts she's having. Its never anything too graphic but its lovely to hear she is feeling sexy.

Maybe you could initiate indirectly by being a little more provocative without being obvious. I'm thinking things like, if you are going out for the evening, wear hold ups and leave your panties off. Dont be obvious or even tell him. See if he spots anything.