He wants a strap on

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Due to work etc my lover and I only get to meet up once every 2/3 months. We have a lot of sexting in between and it is so hot when we do meet. He's recently been saying he'd like me to wear a strap on and f&ck him in the ass while he's tied up. Told me he's been practicing for me, and put his own finger in and out up there and it made him cum really hard. Last night he was watching porn and watching a guy tied up having it.

So question, has anyone done this with their oh? is putting his own finger in normal? My friends say they think he may be gay if that's what he wants. Pretty sure he isn't as I know g-spot is at the prostate. Just not sure where to start, what to do, what to think. We're next meeting in 2 weeks.

Openmouthed at your friends' ignorance. There are some very stupid people around.

My friends say they think he may be gay if that's what he wants.

Your friends are pathetic imo. What your DP is suggesting is pretty standard stuff. Try it. If you don't like it then don't do it again.

I second all the people saying your friends are arse holes

DP and I do this. Great fun. Happy to answer any questions.

Really fluffy??
Do you enjoy it (as in how do you get your pleasure?)
I love the feeling on control when I use my finger on my hubby, I've thought about pegging! Just apprehensive about size to buy!

There's nothing abnormal about a man putting his finger in his bum when wanking. It feels very nice, it's just that most blokes won't admit it for fear of being called gay.

The gay thing is as rediculous as suggesting that lesbians that use dildos are actually straight.

I get my pleasure the same way as I do when giving him a blowjob - enjoying watching/giving him receive, then it is my turn for something fun.

That control feeling you describe is exactly what I like about it. The first time I did it (not with DH but with an ex) it was like a lightbulb went off in my head - the control felt so empowering, I'd never felt sexier.

In terms of toys to use - I recommend this one. It is the first I used with DH, just a bit wider than a large finger. It has been in my bum too and I can confirm that it is very comfortable. The ex I talked about could take something that resembled a cannon!

www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=28425

I used this one with my ex - which has a more direct source of pleasure for me, as you will see. This one absolutely isn't for beginner anuses though.

www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=14015

I would love to use a strap on on dh.

I don't see anything wrong with what he wants to do at all. And I am pretty 'vanilla'

Your friends? Plural? Are you sure he's happy with you telling other people his sex fantasies?

Yes, 2 very close friends and they've never met him so he doesn't mind at all.

We finally met up over the weekend. Tied him up, blindfolded him and used fingers, love beads (and a lot of lube), it drove him wild. I loved the feeling of empowerment too. Thanks for the tips,

Chuckling at this comment...This one absolutely isn't for beginner anuses though.. Beginner anuses! Quality!

Glad you and your do enjoyed yourselves op!

"How very unlike the home life of our own dear Queen".

Mickey Flanagan does a very funny routine about pegging.