Pegging - I don't want to do it

[lottieandmia]

I'm a submissive woman so the idea of doing this is a real turn of. A guy I've slept with in the past thinks he can talk me into it. I hate the idea and tbh i don't want to see him again now. I've told him he needs to find a more dominant woman.

He says men who want this are not sub but that's not right is it?

What is pegging?

Shagging a man with a strap on Lana.

Don't do it if you don;t want to OP

It's women using a strap on on a guy. I probably would just laugh. And I would NOT be turned on!

Also why are you worried about what he says is normal - if you don't want to see him now then just walk away?

It's doing him with a strap on isn't it?

Definitely doesn't make him sub. But if you are, it's probably not your cup of tea.

I would not be comfortable doing that at all

Not every sexual act has to be framed within dominant/submissive dynamics. Just because a man likes being pegged doesn't mean he's submissive.
That said, I would hate it and it's perfectly fine not to want to do something. Anyone who thinks they can persuade you is a dick and not worth your time.

I love doing it, but there's absolutely NO WAY I'd ever do anything I wasn't comfortable with, especially with a man so fucking arrogant he thinks he can grind you down into agreeing. Sack that fucker right off.

I just think that since I'm very sub it will never work.

Well I've learnt new term, which I'll never get to use as wouldn't be interested in it!

OP I'd walk away - you don't sound compatible.

I LOVE it, but approached my DP about doing it because I found it a turn on...
would definitely not be forced into anything I didn't want to do...

Ultimately, if you don't fancy it, don't do it. You have the choice.

It wouldn't turn me on either

If your not comfortable with something don't do it

Nothing to do with hanging washing out then....?

alphajuliet 😂😂😂

It was my first thought too!

If it was framed as a Dom telling a sub to do it would that change it?

I was wondering whether this was about tents or sex...

I like pegging. DH likes it as well and he isn't particularly submissive (not at all actually.) So, if that is a concern, which your OP does somewhat suggest... I wouldn't worry too much.

Just because he's the one getting pounded doesn't mean he's submissive... I mean, not all heterosexual women are either, right?

However, it's your choice. If you don't want to do it? Then don't do it!

But if it's just the aspect of being in a potentially dominant position that concerns you... Well, topping from the bottom?

They're not necessarily sub but that doesn't matter. If you don't want to do it, don't.

Right, but if your Dom tells you to put on a strap on and fuck him right now...

I mean, that could be a rather submissive situation, couldn't it?

But yes, you obviously shouldn't do anything you aren't comfortable with!

It may be that he likes the prostate stimulation. He's asking you to do something for him.

Penetration does not equal domination, you know. I

I genuinely thought your OP was about how much you hate pegging washing out/using a rotary dryer thingy/that you OH had told you to do that to save tumble dryer costs etc now that weathers a bit nicer

But hey, every day is a school day as I've learnt something new

@CricketRuntAndRashers what is 'topping from the bottom'?

Yeah I think he just likes the prostate stimulation. I'll never be able to do it though!

Well that's a new bit of life I didn't know about. I assumed you had to put pegs on his nipples or something like it.

One rule; if the sex makes you feel uncomfortable and uneasy then NO means NO, always.

Just tell him to fuck off. You don't have to perform any sexual act at all with him, if you don't want to.

"Topping form the bottom"? Jeez what on earth is that?

Actually don't tell me, I've decided I really don't need to know. Goodnight!