Pegging - I don't want to do it

[lottieandmia]

I'm a submissive woman so the idea of doing this is a real turn of. A guy I've slept with in the past thinks he can talk me into it. I hate the idea and tbh i don't want to see him again now. I've told him he needs to find a more dominant woman.

He says men who want this are not sub but that's not right is it?

*be a little bit realistic

Whenever men come up with ideas like me handcuffing them I don't like it either.

It sounds really submissive to me. Whilst there is probably nothing better for a man sexually, than prostate stimulation, delivered that way would be a turn off. I think I'm blinkered as I don't understand submissive men

I think I'm blinkered as I don't understand submissive men

You don't? But you understand submissive women?

I get not understanding BDSM in general, but this hierarchical thinking with men on top and women at the bottom ... eh, well, it is understandable that you are used to it, considering we live in a patriarchy, but I can't understand why someone would like it that way.

Er... because it is form and substance physically fucking and penetrating a male with a pseudo male member. Probably not top of the list of things your average heterosexual women is turned on by either mentally or visually.

I was thinking more anatomically.

Of course, you can't get pregnant by that, but you also can't get pregnant by performing oral sex on a man, and many women still do it.
A man performing oral sex on a woman also has zero risk of pregnancy, is still done by many people.

I've seen a ton of fanfic by women for women involving two men fucking each other, so apparently, the mental image of a man being fucked with a real male member does appeal to many ... not to all, obviously. But I don't think your attitude is the norm for heterosexual women.

I don't understand submissive men

You don't have to understand them, you just have to let them get on with their own lives and sexuality however they and their consenting partners wish to do.

Most of what we think of as masculine and feminine is social conditioning anyway. 50 years ago a man who liked cooking and cats would have been kicked around the town. Now we can't get enough of male celebrity chefs and artistic cooks and bodybuilders upload YouTube videos of themselves hugging kittens.

Human sexuality is varied and diverse. We have sex for recreation, not just for procreation.

It really, really pisses me off when submissive men are regarded as somewhat less manly or masculine. Submissiveness and dominance are not inherent to masculinity or femininity.

And you need to be very secure in your masculinity to submit, I think.

I have no problem with submissive men but I just don't think this is for me.

He doesn't pressure me, just says 'oh don't worry we'll do it normally' but then brings it up again.

If you don't want to do it, OP, you don't have to and you don't have to give an explanation. Tell him it's a hard limit for you and that should be the end of it.

And I thought pegging was putting clothes pegs on someone's bits!

Agree with PoorYorick

However, does he want to be submissive or have anal sex?

If it's anal to stimulate his prostate, just slide a vibrator in.

If it's submission, then there's an old joke,

Masochist says, 'please beat me.'

Sadist replies, 'No'.

A true submissive should accept that without complaint.

He's topping from the bottom. In other words he's dominating you.

'I don't want to do it' was exactly my DPs response, with a look of horror.