Namechanged as this is personal. DH and I have been together for almost 7 years. For the first 1-2 years we were able to have PIV sex. It was always a bit strained, as I am on medication that messes up my sex drive and had a lot of hangups about sex.
One day it hurt when we tried to have PIV sex. Upshot was no PIV sex anymore, and sex in general being a difficult issue. We had counselling with Relate, which has helped me with my hangups. I was also diagnosed with vestibulitis (such a relief to know it wasn't me being tense that was causing the problems!). PIV still wasn't really possible - it just felt like Chinese burns every time DH tried to enter me.
Last night we decided to give it a go, using some numbing gel that I had been prescribed. I think DH managed to get all the way in without it hurting me and he came inside me! It was the first time having sex without a condom for both of us (due to the long period of no PIV). I could hardly remember what it was like to have PIV sex and I was so happy, relieved and even proud that we were finally able to have 'normal' sex!!! I don't really feel like I can share this with anyone irl, but I needed to share because it feels so major!!! Also relieved that we might be able to TTC the natural way, rather than using syringes etc.