climax too quickly

[ChipperCharlie]

...and then I want to stop.

If I masturabate (sexless marriage) I literally come within 30 seconds, same with a clitoral vibrator. Then I don't want to carry on.

I'd like it to last for longer really. My vibrator broke and I've not replaced it either.

Have you tried stopping before you climax, then starting again after a short wait? build up the sensation over 3 or 4 goes.

Or try a motion that you don't normally use, or a different speed. It sounds like you've found the movement that's really effective for you, and maybe it's worthwhile being a bit more roundabout and touching yourself as a lover would.

Maybe take your time more and build it up by touching other parts of your body?

You could try using a dildo and avoiding clitoral stimulation

I'd thought about a dildo
so I s'pose LoveHoney is my next step.

Any recommendations?

I personally prefer latex and textured. There are a few with suction cups that are quite fun! Otherwise just go for the size you are most comfortable with.
I would avoid jelly unless you are going to use condoms with it.

Vibrators are notorious for this.

Lelo do some amaaazing products. You can use your fave vibe but have it switched off, or get a good new one in a shape you like but don't turn the vibration on.

Of course, you could always try to find a partner who is willing to satisfy you sexually.

I would avoid the clitoris with the vibrator. Spend time using it around the rest of your labia and vagina and enjoy the sensations. Then when you are ready to climax, then use it on the clitoris. A dildo is a good option too, perhaps the vibrations are just too much.