Living with ED

[spadedude]

I'm in my 50s and got mild ED. My GP prescribed Viagra but I hate it for various reasons (needs to be pre-planned, I find the expectation to perform off-putting and the effect stays afterwards).
I still enjoy sex and can cum ok - but not through PIV. DW says she misses the intimacy of full on penetration and sometimes gets frustrated (she has always climaxed through clitoral stimulation anyway). I have suggested and tried a vibrator both switched on and non-vibrating to give her a penetrated feeling when she cums but she still feels frustrated that she is not having the real deal.
Should I persist with the blue pills or will her frustrations subside if we get into new routines and methods of intimacy. Are there any good positions for vibrator penetration as a substitute for the real thing?? Will dildos be better?

There are some great vibes on the market, and the variable speeds of some of them are superb! Eg, vibrating just at the top, some can do a throb throb type thing, some have the clitoral stimulator with variable speeds...
Go for a good vibrator pronto.

Some of These are superb. Your wife will need to choose for herself, best to look at them in person too (rather than online) if possible.

Positions can vary as much as you want, she can go on all fours with you behind, she can lie flat, lie sideways, anything.

There are vibes for men too, you know so your wife can help better stimulate you.

A dildo may suit you too, as you can simulate the sex without the ED iykwim but it's easier to orgasm with a vibrator. Go for both!