Diminished sexual feeling?

[wobblejelly]

I didn't have sex for nearly a decade and now I'm shagging about twice a week (since the last 6 months) but I'm disappointed that I don't actually get much feeling any more. I'm 45, is this normal? With piv sex I used to feel like my vagina was highly charged, now it limps along and makes achieving climax quite difficult. Even with an attentive partner. Anyone else experienced this? Is it because I've had kids & my bits have just got old/worn out? I don't think it's anything to do with the quality/attentiveness of my lover, he's excellent.

Nope, not my experience. Almost 50 here and sex better than ever, orgasms easier too. Pelvic floor exercise and some homework on your own - find out how to trigger your own orgasms and improve them so you can help your partner stimulate you more. Oh and lube, things can get a bit drier down there with age sometimes.

I find my weight really affects it. I'm fat at the moment and so struggle, but half a stone lighter and it's a different ball game. It's not a self-esteem thing, it's definitely a fat thing for me, possibly to do with weight on my pelvic floor as I'm less able to stop leaking wee and struggle to orgasm.