Fisting

[VenusInFauxFurs]

I was very consensually, enthusiastically fisted for the first time the other evening. It was very pleasant, quite possibly the best orgasm I've ever had.

But, there was a lot of bleeding. I only realised afterwards quite how much blood there was. He was wearing a latex glove so I think the bleeding came from stretching rather than scratching.

Has anyone else had experience of bleeding after fisting? I didn't experience any pain at the time or afterwards. I am going to the GUM clinic tomorrow and will ask them about it.

Sorry if TMI but some of you asked so I will try to share what I know. Fanjos are awesome. BF has educated me on the wonders of mine. Sometimes when he uses his fingers I tighten around him. It gets longer and thinner in shape. Sometimes though it 'balloons' out; gets shorter, tighter at the entrance but the walls inside seem to pull away like a cavern. It doesn't feel much different to me but apparently to him it's very different. If the ballooning out happens then more fingers can go in relatively easily. Only been fisted once, lots of lube and it took about 20 mins to get his hand in. Was not painful but did feel very full. Was managed with a constant pressure and the silent duck (a new phrase to me but a perfect one), I just relaxed to the pressure and slowly took him in. No thrusting, no jiggling and no blood either. As his hand fitted in he naturally curled his fingers up into a ball (fist). I did orgasm and it was great. Very different to normal. He then took his hand out, or rather he patiently encouraged and waited for me to expel him, took a number of minutes and was painless.

Back to normal within 30 minutes and no lasting effects. Hey ho...

Oh good lord 20 minutes ?! I'm not judging BTW, whatever floats your boat, but, just..... Why???!

I can assure you I do not lack in self respect. Nor am I in an abusive relationship.

The relationship I am in with my partner is the first relationship that I have ever been able to be wholly honest in, about my kinks and fetishes. We do enjoy fisting as part of a happy, healthy and consensual sex life and whilst it's not something we do every time we make love or play, we've done it a fair few times, and yes, i enjoy it, we both do.

Some people cannot imagine fisting, ever. And that's okay. I cannot imagine only having vanilla sex for the rest of my life. That's okay too. You carry on doing what you like, and I'll carry on doing what I like.

Oh and AF, please don't take on so about the elasticity of my vaginal walls. I've been doing my pelvic floor excercises like a good'un and it's paying off dividends

Sorry don't get the 20 minutes and why bit? I love sex and spends hours playing in bed (with breaks for a drink, snack, wee and then some more again). 20 minutes is a quicky....

Yes, hours of pleasure I understand (can't say it happens that often round here tbf) but 20 minutes struggling to insert something massive, sounds, well, not pleasurable.

Overstretched supporting structures cannot be tightened with exercise alone. You can tone muscles with PF exercises (such as when deconditioned for natural hormonal causes such as pregnancy and childbirth), but if the surrounding soft tissues are damaged by external physical means only surgery will put that right. You cannot "exercise" ligaments, for example.

You are playing fast and loose (har-de-har) with your anatomy. You only get one set.

Tbh, I can't take seriously any grown adult that talks about "playing" when they mean sex.

So, when Rooney knackers his cruciate ligaments by getting them overstretched during a dirty tackle do we think he "tightens them up" with exercise ?

No, he requires invasive surgery to repair them

That is the difference we are talking about.

And yet people play contact sport all the fucking time, AnyFucker. I don't judge them. It makes them happy, I assume.

I don't go skiing threads and say "What are you doing, you weirdoes? Stop hurling yourselves down mountains. You'll break all your fucking arms and legs!" (Although I do think it.)

And anyone who thinks that 20-60 minutes is a tediously long time to spend on a sex act, yeah, fisting probably isn't for you.

go on* skiing threads

Waiting for something to be inserted into your fanjo is a sex act? 20 mins is a long pause in the sex act for me.

The enjoyment's in the journey, Cote.

I hope you find someone that respects you, OP.

It sounds about as enjoyable as a smear test tbh. Worse, actually. At least the doctor doesn't put his entire hand in my fanjo while doing the smear test and it doesn't take 20 minutes to do it.

I googled it
Cripes.

Tell you what AF, you worry about your fanny, I'll worry about mine.

And when i said 'play', i meant as in with other people, acting out role plays or scenes. Most folks in the fetish scene that i know use the term 'playing' to mean exactly as i used it.

Why don't you lot leave AF alone ok!!? Out of everyone on Mumsnet she defends women to the absolute fucking HILT! So anytime i send people have a go at her I just think you are hateful! So fuck off!

Dear god. I googled.

A pepper, up her fanny. A bright orange pepper.

Is AF above criticism?
No.

Yes, people who play contact sports expect they may have to have surgery to repair the damage that can happen in the pursuit of their thrills. Unless they are very poorly versed in anatomy and physiology. Lots of people are though, so "players" of any variety wouldn't exactly be in the minority. It doesn't change anything though.

Last girl don't be a groupie.

I really wouldn't judge by what you can google. There seems to be a huge discrepancy between a pornography version and what people here are describing.
I think a re-naming and re-claiming of the practise for lovers is in order. Any suggestions?

Cote, you're not "waiting twenty minutes for something to be inserted into your fanjo." It's not like you're lying side by side doing nothing then BOOM! fist up the foof.

Its a gradual process as more fingers are being employed and depths are being deepened. Its fun from the start because who doesn't like having their vag and clit massaged?

So twenty minutes preparatory fisting is no more tedious than having a penis being thrust in and out of one's fanjo for 20 minutes.

Criticise away.