How do you go about getting a one night stand?

[dogmousebird]

It's been nearly 2 years since I had any kind of intimacy and I'm currently climbing the walls. Vibrator just isn't cutting it anymore. I'm a single parent and all my friends are happily married so chances of going out are slim (DC's Dad has them 1 weekend in 4). I don't have any male friends who could be a 'friend with benefits' and I'm totally out of the loop and lacking in confidence talking to men anyway. I'm not really a fan of OL dating.

I'm not interested in a relationship, I just want a good pounding (sorry ). How do you even go about that these days? And safely?

Really? Is it a safe enough site?

You could try online dating. If it's just a shag you're after you'll get plenty of offers there!

Sorry, just realised that you said you're not a fan of OL dating. I'm not either but it seems the way to go these days. P

Tinder.

At least with Tinder or similar you can arrange the hook up when you know your ex will have your dc and you know you will definitely get a bit, not like clubs, although i was never into that scene so dont know how easy it is to pick up there i guess :)

If you join Fab Swingers you'll probably get 100 blokes contacting you on your first day. There's way more men than women on there so take your pick!

Happy pounding. . Have fun.

Oh I wouldn't know where to start OL .

Have you thought of using craigslist. I used to go on it to get a shag before I met DP.

Get dressed up, go to a nice social bar/club and have a good time.

I did this once as friends and family were all busy and I had a rare saturday child free and looked like I was getting ditched for a date so I decided instead of staying in and moping infront of t.v I got dressed amd went to a jazz bar on my own.
I wasn't planning on hooking up with anyone but ended up meeting a guy who was also on his own at the bar, let's just say was a night to remember.
If it doesn't happen atleast you went out and possibly had a good time.

Online dating is the only other option I can think of but is more tedious as you have to sift through all the red flags and pure no no's.

Tinder definitely, there's a whole range of men and it's easy to use. And you can enjoy some of the humorous profiles too.

Second fabswingers. Men are on there just for sex. It's not a traditional swingers site just a hook up site mainly. I would only ever choose a man with a face pic though as almost certainly married/taken if not one on. I met some decent fellas on there and they don't seem to put off by age/size.

Be careful as you would when meeting any stranger but worth a look. Prepare to he faced with lots of cock pics though. Men seem to think that women will select them for the size of their dick rather than how they converse or look facially! I have only ever chatted to men with face pic and no dick pics so it didn't work for me!

There will be hundreds within a reasonable distance to where you live. You can search a certain radius.

So how do you arrange to meet exactly? I don't want strangers in my home. Hotels?

Tinder has worked for me, you have to be prepared to sift through a lot of idiots. Arrange a quick social meet for coffee or a drink, in a public place of course, for first date. Try to meet fairly soon, and don't invest too much time and headspace in texting before you meet as it's easy to over-invest or build up an idea in your head that will not reflect reality! Have a safety buddy-make sure you let someone know where you are and who you are with.

I have a couple of FWBs who I met on Tinder. Both are very attractive, well educated and generally lovely. One I meet with in hotels. The other is single so we go to his place. All is good.

The other is single so we go to his place.

and the other one(s) is/are..... ??

I was thinking that AF!

I'm attached now but did used to wonder this as I'd never been clubbing and feel awkward/anxious sat somewhere on my own without a purpose.

That sounds like a lot of work for a ONS susie. Maybe clubbing is the way to go!

Forgetdinner.com There will be lots of married men on there though. Not all of them.

Arranging via hookup sites allows you more safety than just hooking up with some rando you met 10 minutes ago, IMO. Means you can prep a friend for a safety call, etc, plus book hotel etc. ONS from clubs/bars usually either want you to go to their place or yours, which is too unsafe for me. Plus if you pick up a bloke in the pub he's gonna be half past drunk already usually which I find really tiresome.

TBH these days for me it all feels like a bit too much hassle and I'd rather stay home with my rabbit!! But have had plenty of safe and satisfying hookups in the past. I used to use Adult Friend Finder but not sure if it's still going.