Grower or shower?!

[Eeyore777]

Hi all

Embarrassing problem coming up.

Sorry to just put it out there but are your hubbies/OHs growers or showers in the willy department? Has anyone been with a guy who is particularly small... Like when it's flaccid there is barely anything there at all? Just balls and not much more than a small length when erect?

Would really appreciate your help on this one.... Particularly regarding fertility and general consensus of how 'normal' this is (I know theres no such thing as normal....)

Thank you x

Sounds like you are talking about a micropenis? From memory that is a penis under 1 inch in length when erect.

NSFW link, contains nudity:

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Micropenis

I'm not sure the OP is talking about the erect length. Colleagues suggest that "grower or shower" applies to the flaccid length: indicating that one cannot always tell from the resting position what the erect length would be -- hence does a guy 'show it', or 'grow it'.

Since I see very few of them I can't help with whether grower or shower makes a big difference when erect.

I've never been with a shower. All the guys I've dated have grown significantly from flaccid to erect.

If it's cold weather, you're gonna get a shrinky winky. My last LTR the guy's dick practically climbed back inside him when it was cold, but was more than average when erect.

If your partner has only an inch or two when erect then this is a condition called micropenis as linked above. There isn't a treatment for it but it shouldn't affect fertility.

I don't think there's any link between penis size and fertility. In my younger pre marriage days I had a brief affair with a young man who had a very small penis, kind of like a button mushroom balanced on his balls. I didn't find it satisfying at all tbh. Don't be made to feel guilty for wanting the right size for you.

I have just recently had a shower. Hmm, never knew there was such a thing.

My DP is a define grower. He calls it his pippy when it's flaccid as there is nothing to it but he grows to just under 6 inch (yes we've measured). Most men I've been with have been growers, no.complaints regarding performance and I've never really heard of it affecting fertility.

I've had the experience of both. My ex was a grower. But also because he had a belly his penis would disappear when flaccid to basically just a foreskin. When erect was about 5 inches.

My current partner is a shower. It does grow a bit when erect. But he is extremely well endowed, both thick and long. So when flaccid it hangs like a roll of wet wallpaper.

I have to say, shallow as it sounds, I prefer initiating an erection on the latter.

I think a "grower" is more common than a "shower"....

I'm still at the phrase "shrinky winky"

My dp is definitely a shower - very stubby when flaccid. When erect, it is sometimes still smallish, but other times when he is rock hard its big enough. Its what they do with it that counts innit? I find if he is not relaxed or is nervous, he won't get as hard, whereas previous dps only had to be in the same room as me to get an erection

Don't be put off by a grower rather than a shower, the best sex i ever had was with a grower not overly big but his technique was brilliant and the worst was a shower no skill or consideration and hurt a little, so long as you are getting what you need sexually from him then just enjoy each other and never mind how it looks when flacid