Orgasm question

[AfterTheAffair]

So I was wondering if this is normal or is there anything I can do to change it.

When I orgasm (assuming I am)!i get to the stomach flips, muscles contracting, pleasure feelings but then it just fades. No creshendo, no falling off a cliff. All the physical feeling just stop.

I feel like I am missing out on the last stage.

Sounds like your not quite getting there ( missing out on the last stage).

Ok. Any idea why that can happen, how to keep going? Books to read?

I noticed a while back that I was holding my breath as I got close. Making sure I keep breathing more regularly makes quite a difference to the end result.

Is this when you're having sex with a partner, or on your own? If it's with a partner, are we talking vaginal penetration, oral, mutual masturbation?

Ok so breathing. Yes I do stop breathing and tense everything up - In anticipation it feels like.

Ive never come close to orgasm with a partner with vaginal penetration so this is masturbatiion - mutual and individual.