How can I ask dp

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to be a bit more... assertive in bed?

We have a good sex life - we know each other well. But I want him to sometimes just throw me down and do me

But how to approach it without him thinking he's shit in bed. Because he's really not.

Make it a laugh. Chat about fantasies. Tell him yours is to be. leapt on and ravaged unexpectedly when you're just doing normal everyday stuff.
Watch out he may come up with some of his own ideas ????

Exactly what Heyho said. Next time you dtd, afterwards, ask him is there anything you can do for him, clothing, role play etc. If he says anything then say ok(as long as you’re comfortable with it) and say in return I’d like you to...........

I think sometimes in these situations you have to spell out exactly what you want. If you don't ask, you don't get...

And when you're dtd and you verbalise a bit, it's a turn on for most men.

Do you engage in message foreplay at all? My DP doesn't live with me, so when we have a kid free weekend together the texts before are quite hot, and I find it easier to tell him what I'd like that way.

Cheers him up at work no end!

I love it when you......pull my hair / take control / get all masterful etc

Text him!
My DW and I often text (sext) as a precursor while we are at work.
It's easy to say things in a text and break the ice that way first.