Is it possible he's TOO big? Not a stealth boast

[srtajuanita]

So, met someone I can really see myself with long term. He's clever, so funny, sexy and we can't keep our hands off each other.

We had our first time together this week, using condoms, and it was hellish painful. He is both ridiculously long and thick. When he withdrew, there was blood on the condom. I'm no virgin, and he wasn't aggressive or uncaring. I really could see myself with him, but don't want to commit myself to someone who is just too big. I don't want to tell him to not thrust so hard and put him off.

Thanks in advance

My DH is big not really girth wise but length wise , depending on how excited he is it can really hurt and I have to put my hands on his pubic bone to stop him going to deep as its pretty painful ! Ask him to take it slower and to let you take the lead. You can overcome this you just need to get used to each others bodies x

I am only 5"2 things are shorter everywhere. That may be something that might be considered? If everything is in proportion it could be a problem.

Zillie that made me lol!

Fwiw I had a lover with a tentactular long and wide willie, and I made a donought shaped cushion, a padded cockring, to absorb at least two inches, otherwise, even going slowly, I felt my giblets were getting a hammering. Doggy style was a huge, literally, no no.

Size matters when it's uncomfortable. I quite like an average one myself!

A friend of mine loves her DH's 8". She rides horses though so has a cast iron 'seat'.

Often the really long ones have a curve or bend to them which can make certain positions more comfortable than others, depending what is being hit on the inside by the end of it.

Didn't notice a curve to be honest. I've flirtily texted him to say we need to practice!

you will get used to it, if not grow to love it. 8 inches is still within the realms of normal. You WILL need to ask him to go gentle, and there might be certain positions that are off limits

You can work a version of doggy style though...tell him to stay completely still while you move backwards and forwards as you like, at your own pace on his massive tadge.

Then, like I say,flatten out on the bed with your legs inside his thighs, cross your ankles and squeeze...bloody marvellous!

And why not a stealth boast?

I often find myself with a little smug smirk on my face when having to deal with cheating lying ex husband now.

Underbeneathsies - homemade padded cock-ring

OP, I think a visit to your GP is a good idea, ascertain where the blood's coming from.

Personally, I can't be doing with big willies. Thinking of them makes me want to cross my legs.

My DH is 8 & a half inches, and THICK - we've been together since I was 19, and sex is VERY offputting - it hurts, every single time. He says sometimes he can't help it when he thrusts hard but it hurst SO much when he's hitting my cervix and what feels like my tummy!

I'm 31 now. He STILL has to go slowly every single time at first. I'f I'm not turned on, it's so, so painful and the poor guy has to go so slowly. It's very rare I can be relaxed enough that he can just go straight in like normal people, but I try so hard to relax for him. It's just a constant struggle to relax enough for him.

Certain positions are just an absolute no-no. It's like being rammed in the stomach with a baseball bat :(

Christmas, roses, 12 years of painful sex?? Did you have a child, did things improve?

I'm definitely seeing an Etsy business for the home made padded cock ring in a range of Cath Kidston fabrics.

No dafter than anything else on Etsy, to be honest ????

8" isn't huge

Really?? My legs are crossed in horror at the thought of 8 inches. But I am (apparently) petite in there, and tossed a vibrator in the bin recently as it was way, way way too big for me at 7 inches.

Oh, I'm not into it myself, but apparently up the bum can be good for long lengths as there's more room..?

sorry girls but trust me, as somebody who's seen an awful lot of them; one vagina is pretty much as accommodating as the next. adjusting for parity of course.

The differential is literally millimetres.

lube is your friend

There's the possibility the blood was caused by a stray hair inside or maybe you weren't quite relaxed enough?

yes lube is the way to go. I had a boyfriend with a larger than average penis and the first time we had sex, I thought I was going to rip in half. I found even when wehad spent plenty of time warming up, we still needed extra lubrication for it to be comfortable.