Derpthroat

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I must have the worlds most sensitive throat and gag at the slightest hint of anything touching it. But I've really been wanting to do this especially since oh mentioned one of his exes could do it. Do you think it's really possible for anyone to do it perfectly without gagging once??? Does anyone have any tips ? Or is it a case of you either can do it or you can't? X

Sex isn't about skills
Just get that notion right out of your head. Ugh.

It's been pissing me off since I read it, that Cosmopolitan are instructing women how to do it.

years on the clock do not equal maturity

Maybe work on your self esteem, sounds all a bit sad

I haven't RTFT sorry but my advice is get a massive strap on and tell him he needs to show you how it's done

Exactly what AF said, being of a certain age doesnt determine a man from a boy, behaviour and attitude does that

FFS. Who are these arsehole men"??? They watch too much porn. All this stuff doesn't usually come naturally. It's about power, control, domination and humiliation. Rampant sex has its place, sharing nice sex does too. Porny humiliating difficult sex sounds horrid.

We don't have children and not married. I don't know to what extent he used porn before he met me (and at the beginning of our relationship actually) I haven't asked him. But he does know that my ex was a porn addict (was with him for 6 years before I eventually gave up trying to "help" him) part of me would like to know how much he did use it. Sex was quite forceful when we first got together but I assumed this was just him. It's got gentler over time presumably due to the watching of less and less porn (we do live together now so it would be difficult for him since we spend all out free time together) after my ex I planned on staying single for a while but it didn't quite work out that way. I truly believed that I would never meet another guy like my ex for whom porn was the most important thing in his life, even more than his loving partner.
Anyway! It's hard to leave because both my parents are dead so I have no family to turn to in that respect - I have very few friends. As I've got older I've developed an "anxiety" about house sharing and fantasise about living in a flat if I ever did leave. But flats are not affordable for me. I work in admin 30 hours per week. I live in the north but it's still very expensive to live here.
I doubt I would be eligible for benefits if I left my job and went back to find somewhere in my home town.
Anyway, I've rambled, sorry.

If money was no object would you leave him?

Can you clarify why this ex is an ex, btw?

He sounds like he's a bit of a tosser for comparing you with another woman (my ex had this habit) and, frankly, he should probably try tossing off a bit more frequently becaus he sounds like a pretty inconsiderate sexual partner, to put it extremely politely.

And at 40, very much a manchild.

If you're on low wages then you should qualify for housing benefit. If you do want to leave the relationship then why not make an appointment with CAB and find out what benefits you could get? You might have to look around a while for a landlord who accepts HB, is all.

Where were you living before this guy came along? How long have you been together?

Why is the OP getting such a hard time? She's stated that it came up in conversation, he didn't specifically request it.

The response to the OP has made me really angry. Deep throat can of COURSE be part of a loving relationship. You lot are making out that it either doesn't actually exist or is painful for the giver. Well you are wrong. It is possible, and it isn't painful. It obviously isn't possible for everyone, and no one should feel inadequate for not being able to engage but seriously, to suggest that a man is lying that his ex did it like it only happens in films is complete horseshit.

But in addition OP, the relationship does sound a little odd. You may well be out of it by now. Hopefully you are happy.