Derpthroat

[Toohotcats]

I must have the worlds most sensitive throat and gag at the slightest hint of anything touching it. But I've really been wanting to do this especially since oh mentioned one of his exes could do it. Do you think it's really possible for anyone to do it perfectly without gagging once??? Does anyone have any tips ? Or is it a case of you either can do it or you can't? X

And teally if you are thinking you need to out sex porn actresses to stop him warching porn it is not going to work.

Your attribute that you possess that you do not is that you are real and not a fantasy/pretence.

Might be better to find someone who prefers a relationship of equals, in all it facets to porn.

You're 29 OP, can I ask you to define your idea of a healthy sexual relationship between DPs?

He said his ex smells of BO?
Charming fellow!
I think you need to find someone who actually shows some respect for women

like I said, cock

Wow he sounds like a charmer.

Is this your first real relationship? Because you do come across as really naive and if you have not had many partners, hence wanting to please and be the best lover. That is not normal behaviour and you should not be comparing yourself to his ex. The whole at least you don't smell makes you seem really childish. People have ex-partners but you don't need to know all about them. The whole forcing yourself to do deepthroat makes me feel really sorry for you. It should not be like that in a committed relationship, or indeed any relationship at all!

Maybe talk to a friend you trust in real life? Or indeed counselling

AF you always make me giggle, i do agree with you though

happy to oblige, Lucy

Oh OP this doesn't sound like much fun. You will never be able to do more extreme acts than the pretend world of porn films or the pretend world of his ex. Not without damaging yourself.

But the bigger question is why do you feel the need to try to compete? And why are you competing in this particular area? I'm guessing you don't think anyone else in the world is 'doomed to stay single forever' for not doing that?

And finally, I don't like the sound of this man. Who the hell can get off when their partner is gagging?

OP, you have a gag reflex for a reason... Tell that tool to go running after his deep-throating ex and you'll wait for someone decent to come along.

He is an abusive manipulative prick. This idea hasn't come from you, bet you he has subtly engineered the conversation so you think it has. If he shoved his cock anywhere else when you objected you know what that would be called?
I think the ex has had a lucky escape.

I can't believe I am going to say this... When I was a kid I used to swallow raspberries whole, sort of hold them at the back of my throat and bring them back up again. I learnt to overcome the reflex-ish. I have no idea why.

Fast forward to being a grown woman and I learned I could take in a bit more than some.... Bit like the raspberry trick... TMI. It only works if I am in control, you can't just have some arse hole shove it in your mouth like a dumb teen who thinks sex is like a porno. They need to lay there and receive and not try to take control. BJs should always be 100% woman in control otherwise I'd be tempted to bite the bugger and claim it was the gag reflex..... If they can't respect that then no more BJs, and probably end of relationship if I were you.

I'd agree with captain yes it can be done and you can overcome the gag reflex with practise. It took me quite a while but it was something I wanted to do. If I am doing it though I do it my way. There's only certain angles that work really well for me and he'd never ever push me to try more or go further.

If you want to try it go for it but because you want to not to try and match an ex or because you feel pushed into it

redglitter how did you overcome it?
I honestly believed him when he told me his ex could do it but something at the back if my mind was telling me he was probably lying. Because there's no physical way (I.e me leaning over him) that it can be done - at least in that position. Which is the only position he's ever accepted a bj in.
Maybe I'm overthinking this now..
The fact that I'd so much rather approach him with these kinds of things instead of posting on here for advice is a bit bleh..... I'm guessing mos of you feel comfortable talking with your partners about this stuff?

I have no gag reflex and can 'derp' throat my dh, I still don't enjoy it, even though it comes without all the choking and spluttering

If you don't enjoy it, why do you do it?
I just watched some deep throat in porn, and omg it was actually the most un-arousing thing I've ever seen! Wtf!? Do guys genuinely get off on watching that? I don't understand..

I used the wrong choice of words there I guess, I do it because I want to pleasure my husband, the deepthroating itself does diddly squat for me personally, doesn't really turn me on or anything but it doesn't 'bother' me to do it.

I don't know anyone desperate to conquer their gag reflex so they can be better at sex than the ex with b.o.
Are you really that fucked up?

toohoo yes they get off on that if their thing is hating women. Sex as power and control and not as a mutually satisfying act.

Not referring to any of the pps who do it voluntarily to their dh without gagging!

But I am assuming the porn you watched showed the women in distress/gagging? They enjoy watching that because they enjoy watching abuse.

Thanks, johnfarleys it does make me feel tons better to suggest I'm fucked up. Maybe I am but, why not keep your insults to yourself?
I felt really uncomfortable when he mentioned the smelly ex, I didn't want to know how good/bad she smelled and thought it was a bit mean, to be honest. But when you're in a position where it's very very hard to get out of the r'ship then you tend to "make things ok" in your head. I would be mad if this ended and he told the next woman he met that I smelled or I (was shit at bjs ) or something!! And thinking about it I have no doubt this would be the case. I mean she cheated and then left him so, maybe his mean-ness is valid somehow.
Having watched the few vids I feel sick and don't know what pleasure it gives the man ?

Meh, so carry on watching deep throat porn and wishing you had the skills of the girls doing that rather than working out why you're so obsessed with sexually competing with his smelly ex.
It's clearly working very well for you.

why is it "very very hard" to get out of this relationship

he sounds like a sexually abusive twat that has a problem with women

If i didnt know you were 29 id think you were about 17 coming out with all this about deepthroating! Have you considered a relationship with a man rather than a boy?

At 40 I'd consider him a man! Most of his friends are even older and still single / on "lads" holidays and shagging 20 year olds. This isn't normal, is it?

I do sometimes wish I had the skills but at the same time he could have lied for my sake, and told me he'd never experienced it , rather than admit to it having been done by the younger possibly prettier more skilled ex ..