Finally back with a child-free bedroom... how the hell do I get my mojo back??

[squigglehead]

DS will be in his room for the first time tonight. We've been phasing to it for a while, but this is the first time since he was born that me and DH will be in bed together without him around... We've had sex a few times since he was born (9 months ago) but I'm soooo put of practice and I'm really nervous and making myself feel pressured and stressed and ahrg :(

How long til I feel ok with the intimacy again?? I feel like my body has been DSs first and foremost for so long, and I'm ready to reclaim it (though he's still breastfeed my periods have just returned so that helps), but I have no idea how to get back in the zone!

Just take a deep breath - and go for it. Once you get it going again it's like you never stopped

You need to feel sexy. Buy a Slinky new night dress, wax/shave, paint toenails, relax in the bath with a glass of bubbly while reading a but of erotica, light candles, call in DH, then you're off. Works for me anyway

I find a good pampering really helped me around that time.
Have fun!

After my first dc I read Fifty Shades to get me back!! That seemed to work....this time round no such luck. Maybe I should read the second one??

The second book is much tamer than the first.

If you have an eReader, Portia da (di) Costa's stuff is worth a look.

I can recommend a device called the Womanizer W100.

I had a huge break from sex when I lost the trust from my husband. Then alone I wanted to start up my mojo.

I bought this device and it really got the motors revving. The more I used the higher the mojo got.

It was a life saver to my sexual freedom.

I use it with or in front of my new partner. It's awesome.

Have a drink
Make yourself feel sexy - get dolled up if needs be
Watch/read whatever your turn on is
This one might not be all that popular (and DH would be devastated to know) but occasionally I 'start' on just me before he gets home - not going too far but enough to be both lubricated and turned on when he gets in (we're TTC and sometimes I need to provide myself with a little encouragement....!!)

Bonne chance and all that, have a grand one

Missed that you're bf-ing so apologies for the comment if you're still abstaining!