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I rang the school to chat about how much time DD has been off ill

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Katymac · 20/10/2009 20:51

& as I brought it to their attention they are going to write to me to complain about it

I was concerned she had missed so much in her first term at high school and wanted to chat with someone about catching up/keeping in touch and generally making them aware she was ill rather than swinging the lead (she had a bad virus, D&V & now tonsillitis)

So I got told off & will be being written to as it's 'not acceptable'

Is this a normal reaction?

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MatNanPlus · 20/10/2009 20:56

Seems a bit OTT and sounds like her missing hadn't been picked up and someone is trying to cover themselves.

I would suggest a letter saying why you called and the reaction you recieved as it is odd.

How can it 'not be acceptable' if she is sick, if you send her when she is ill they will only send her home and ask that you only send her back when she is well!!

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Katymac · 20/10/2009 21:05

Well that is what I thought

I had to send them 'evidence' of her illness - so i scanned her prescription printout & emailed it to them

I thought I was being proactive - now I feel a pratt

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MatNanPlus · 20/10/2009 21:07

Write and put your view / side of things as sounds like someone there messed up.

abra1d · 20/10/2009 21:09

No good deed goes unpunished, does it? This sounds like a poor response to your responsible attitude, OP.

thisisyesterday · 20/10/2009 21:15

how very odd. presumably you informed them each timethat she was ill?
who did you talk to at the school??

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Katymac · 20/10/2009 21:22

a 'pastoral assistant'

Yes I informed them before 9 each day she was off except today - when I rang at 10:30 (ish) as I wanted to talk to someone & I though to leave it until later as it would be less hectic (for them) - when I rang yesterday I said it was fairly serious & that she would be off for a few days

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thisisyesterday · 20/10/2009 21:34

well then I can't see what their problem is. she can;'t help being ill can she? and yes, it isn't ideal, bt that's why you were calling.

fools.

did the person actually answer your questions about keeping up with work etc or jsut tell you off? might be worth ringing again and talking to someone different if that's possible, perhaps asking if her form tutor or someone could give you a ring?

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Katymac · 20/10/2009 21:48

They sent home some work which is lovely but Dd was too ill today to do any work - we will have a go in the morning

I do accept she has had a lot of time off (5 day plus 2 days leading straight in to this week)
But she has also:
a)Just started a new school - so new germs
b)Once she had the first infection she became more susceptible to the next (& the one after that)
c)Her Daddy is quite poorly & she has a lot to deal with - the first time I spoke to this lady it was to explain that she would be involved with the 'young carers' project the school was starting up

Poor poppet is knackered

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cornsilk · 20/10/2009 21:51

How weird. What is her actual attendance then?

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Katymac · 20/10/2009 21:55

Today is day 9 (so to speak)

5 days from 28th Sept - virus - she was ill both weekends as well
2 days (Thur & Fri) last week - D&V
She was better on Saturday then ill on Sunday - off yesterday (at GP - diagnosis tonsillitis) & today

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cornsilk · 20/10/2009 22:01

That's not loads of time off considering that swine flu is sweeping the country. Try not to worry - they're just covering themselves I suppose. I'm sure her attendance will be fine by the end of the year.

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Katymac · 20/10/2009 22:09

Maybe I should have said it was swine flu twice

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cornsilk · 20/10/2009 22:10

LOL!

HerBewitcheditude · 20/10/2009 22:12

Did they actually use the term "unacceptable"

Is it now unacceptable to be ill?

that's rather startling isn't it?

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Katymac · 20/10/2009 22:14

No they said it wasn't really acceptable

we have agree once she is over this I will send her in & they can decide if she is ill praying for norovirus

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GhostlyPixieOnaPumpkin · 21/10/2009 15:28

Send her in with a bottle of calpol, and a note saying to give it to her when she feels too ill to work.
That'll make them think

cory · 21/10/2009 17:33

We had this at dd's previous school, as her condition means she is off a lot

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"Yes, I do appreciate that Corydd is ill, but you can't expect us to be happy about it."

dd is going through another spate of constant virus infections atm; has had something wrong with her on and off since two weeks before the start of term

cory · 21/10/2009 17:34

sorry posted too soon; was going to say: dd is going through another spate of illness, but new school is being very supportive- as they should be

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Katymac · 21/10/2009 21:07

Thanks cory - sorry your Dd is poorly; for my dd it is just stress/new school & a touch of asthma - so it is inconvenient rather than upsetting

However I am so ready for her to go back to school

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Katymac · 22/10/2009 20:48

I have received a stroppy letter from the school now

So do I send her in sick or keep her off unauthorised?

& she is due to compete nationally in November - I wonder if they will let her have time off for that?

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