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What happens if you dont get any offers for 11plus in independent schools around the south east

54 replies

nnnnnnun · 27/11/2025 07:59

Little worried as we didnt apply to many schools

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Rocknrollstar · 27/11/2025 08:00

Did you also apply to local state schools as a back up?

MumChp · 27/11/2025 08:00

You go to state?

LittleBearPad · 27/11/2025 08:04

You accept a place at the state you’ve been offered and then call the schools you’ve applied to plus other less competitive ones and see what’s possible. It will work out.

Plus what’s not many schools? Less than 3?

nnnnnnun · 27/11/2025 08:04

didt apply for state

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Littletreefrog · 27/11/2025 08:04

You go to a state school like everybody else.

nnnnnnun · 27/11/2025 08:05

yes, applied for 3 but the competition is crazy

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Littletreefrog · 27/11/2025 08:06

nnnnnnun · 27/11/2025 08:04

didt apply for state

Well in that case you pay a lot of money to get into a private school that will take your child or you take your chance with a late application state school which will more than likely not be the best and also probably quite a distance away.

MumChp · 27/11/2025 08:08

nnnnnnun · 27/11/2025 08:04

didt apply for state

Why?
If you end up without a school you did ask for it.

nnnnnnun · 27/11/2025 08:11

We dont do state.

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stichguru · 27/11/2025 08:13

You find a school that will take your child either state or private. It will probably be further away, and potentially not as good as ones you applied for because that's why it still has places after the main places organisation has been done. I guess if it's private it may be more expensive than others. Or you stick your child on waiting lists and home educate until places come up.

That's why you ALWAYS apply for state and always put your local school on the form, because it's the school you should qualify for a place in if you actually don't qualify for any others.

MumChp · 27/11/2025 08:15

nnnnnnun · 27/11/2025 08:11

We dont do state.

Homeschool or apply for more private schools. Quite easy?

Chazbots · 27/11/2025 08:17

nnnnnnun · 27/11/2025 08:11

We dont do state.

Er, maybe time to give your DC a few more options?

Littletreefrog · 27/11/2025 08:18

nnnnnnun · 27/11/2025 08:11

We dont do state.

In that case you throw money at the problem. A private school somewhere will take him.

tripleginandtonic · 27/11/2025 08:19

If you have the money you can get private tutors. Tbh, if you have the money you'll find a private school place.

stichguru · 27/11/2025 08:23

nnnnnnun · 27/11/2025 08:11

We dont do state.

I know sometimes things go wrong and provision isn't right for all children, but state school IS the way that the government ensure that every child has a school place.

The private sector isn't designed to be all providing for every kid. Your decision not to do state means you have forfeited your child's right to have a school place somewhere, so I guess you put extra effort and money into finding a place somewhere (maybe further away or more expensive than you first thought) as that is what you have decided you want to do,

nnnnnnun · 27/11/2025 08:26

Thank you all, i was panicking abit.
yes, would get a school, not so great but at least its a school if i throw money at it

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Overthebow · 27/11/2025 08:26

nnnnnnun · 27/11/2025 08:11

We dont do state.

Then you’ll have to hope you get a place, apply for other schools or homeschool. Or accept state if no other options.

cannotmakedecisions · 27/11/2025 08:28

What was your plan when you first applied? Surely you must have realised that the schools were competitive? Did you not consider a less competitive option?
As others have said, you’ll be able to find a school as not all private schools are for high achievers. But it worries me that you don’t seem to have considered this.

MrsBucketHat · 27/11/2025 08:28

nnnnnnun · 27/11/2025 08:11

We dont do state.

FFS

CosyMintFish · 27/11/2025 08:29

nnnnnnun · 27/11/2025 08:11

We dont do state.

It would be very easy to pile on to this comment, as it is (perhaps deliberately) provocative. But the factual answer to the OP’s question is that, for a family that ‘doesn’t do state’ I am assuming that the child is at a private primary school. The first source of information is the primary school, booking a meeting with the class teacher or head to ask about future options and whether, if needed, the school could recommend any secondary options or ask for late entry at less competitive independent schools.

Part of the reason for paying for primary education is that it is meant to facilitate the next steps. If you can’t get the help you need from the school, it’s not very good. But if that’s the case then you will simply have to get in touch with independent schools and ask if there are arrangements for late applications.

Growlybear83 · 27/11/2025 08:31

nnnnnnun · 27/11/2025 08:11

We dont do state.

In that case it’s down to you if your child ends up without a school place. I don’t think I’ve ever heard anything so ridiculous.

CryMyEyesViolet · 27/11/2025 08:34

I hope you did do state when you were at school, as if you were private schooled and couldn’t problem solve your way to a solution of “if we don’t get into any of the schools we applied for, we find a different one with space and enrol at that one instead”, your parents have wasted a lot of money over the years…

IBorAlevels · 27/11/2025 08:34

Clearly a wind up thread. Why do people actually fall for this though? Which parent willing to pay £k's for their kid would not apply or know anything about the application process and barely write in full sentences? People, use some critical thought please.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 27/11/2025 08:35

What a stupid thread! Surely it's obvious that you just need to find another school. Given that you don't "do" state, then you will need to look at other private options. Or home educate.

It isn't rocket science!

AnnaMagnani · 27/11/2025 08:36

You ask your private primary school teacher how likely it is that your child will get to the selective private school of your choice.

If the answer is 'not a chance' you ask if it's achievable with tutoring.

If the answer is still No, then you ask about other schools that would suit your child better.