Year 11 - 2024/2025: The Results Day Thread

[QueenMabby]

New thread for results day. Deep breaths. We can do this!

My son got a 3 in lit (aqa). He was only predicted a 4 and it is a bit sketchy as in mocks he would be slightly under a 4 or slightly over only be 2 ish marks so it was always a bit of a risk. However, he checked the boundaries and he missed a 4 by (I think) 13 marks which is quite a lot really. He said it went quite well and didn’t think he’d have just scraped a 3. Said he answered all questions. Makes me wonder if they have missed out adding up some marks or something. Teacher hasn’t been in contact so I guess they aren’t thinking the same.

That's interesting. It's an FE college not a sixth form centre so I think they are more adult focused. They did say I could come but he's keen to do it himself and I do have a habit of underestimating him. The LS dept meeting is us both together so I'll ask there about oversight.

It's not terribly likely .it's all done electronically and you can't move on to another script until all boxes have a value in them. It also forces you to scroll on every page before you can move on. It adds it up for you so the only room for error is if the marker mistyped, eg 2 instead of 12 but it sounds like his mark is ballpark so that's less likely, sorry.

Thanks. I don’t think I’d risk it as he was quite close to a 2 and wouldn’t want it to go down. He passed all his other exams including language so it doesn’t really matter. Just a thought going through my head. Like I say, no teachers have been in touch so it probably isn’t something that they’ve thought either.

Definitely speak to them there.

With any kind of ND, you need to work on the assumption that they are functioning around 3 years below chronological age. So your 16 year old is actually only 13 in many ways.

Having them 'pretend' to be adults and manage everything themselves can work really well for some kids and they are totally fine.

Others end up in a complete mess and it's far harder to sort things out than it is to just help them manage along the way.

Well done for enrolling yesterday, what did she register in?

Sorry to hear DD is so poorly…. That’s not good. Is she feeling any better, now? Sending a 😷 🥰..

Is anyone else waiting on confirmation of a sixth form/ college place?

DS applied to a different sixth form - he’s had to decline other places so had to hedge bets on everything being fine for the place he wants to go. He exceeded the conditional offer, so realistically will surely get a place, but this won’t be confirmed until (hopefully!) later today 😬 Whilst trying to brush it off as being nothing to worry about, internally I’m completely on tenterhooks!

OhCrumbsWhereNow can I ask about what you said about ND teens functioning three years behind their chronological age? That definitely fits ds (no formal diagnosis) but is it a 'well known fact'?

TIA

I think it's a well known 'fact' / rule of thumb.

My DS was diagnosed at 4ish … this is so so very true..
Not that I would EVER let him hear that.

I don't know about autism, but its very much a known thing with Dyspraxia.. they operate on about a 20% social/emotional delay.. so i wouldn't be that much of a leap to Autism/ADHD.

My nearly 19yo DS has all 3, and is very much still only about 13/14 on an emotional level.

It chimes with what I was told by camhs on the days training I had to attend before ds started on meds for ADHD. It's a very helpful short hand when trying to explain to grandparents, teachers etc about his issues. We are overly concerned with what kids "should" be doing at x age and upbraiding them if they're not. As the pp said, if you imagine your (just) 16;year old is really 13/14 it makes it much easier to comprehend why they might be struggling with GCSEs.

Yes, my dd’s had to enrol online yesterday, but has to wait for confirmation of her place. The confirmation of submission said to call them if you don’t hear before 5.00 pm today - nothing so far here. It’s not a very big 6th form either, so it seems a bit OTT, when larger centres managed to confirm places yesterday.

Dd is also really stressed, because she contacted her second choice college’s chatbot yesterday, to ask how she would go about de-registering, as they made them enrol two weeks ago. Unfortunately, the AI bot then took it upon itself to de-register her there and then, so she’s lost her second choice if her school 6th form place doesn’t go ahead. She exceeded her offer by quite a lot, but she’s still stressing, as they’ve had an influx of applications from local high performing private school pupils this year, due to the VAT issue, so there is more competition for places than there has been previously.

My boy is year 12 and hasn't got the results he needs. His English tutor is fuming as she has 10 students 1 point off a 4. She's just submitted all of them.for remark.

Hes bee. Accepted on A lower level level 3 what ever that means pending his remark .

This is what we were told when ds1 was diagnosed (Audhd). He is 23 now and just going into his second year of uni. He wasn’t anywhere near ready at 18, but has thrived since he started his foundation year when he was 21.

We have found most educational settings, including universities, have a system for allowing parental involvement if you ask. There’s usually just a consent form for the yp to complete and they can usually specify the level of involvement/contact. Same with student finance and DSA, the yp just need to consent.

The worst year for us was when he decided he wanted to work, instead of going to uni and was bullied out of his job. It was awful being powerless to get involved and help him defend himself. Going to uni late has given him breathing space to develop and mature to the extent he was president of one of the societies last year and has stepped down by choice, but still has an important role in it this year. He’s actually become the go-to-guy for any members that need help.

A-levels - 4 as she can do futher maths - also welsh bacc though she's been told she can drop that later on in the year if work load gets to much which other two never got told.

We're in wales so AS levels end of Y12 so can re-asses then or before is she struggles - hard to say if she will or not TBH. As level grades have proven a much better predictor than teacher's predications for older two.

She's in bed with a bowl feeling very sorry for herself - better now though than start of term even with family visisting this weekend. She started being grumpy yesterday afternoon when she got back but had has two busy days - and then she was too hot but shivering. She can just rest now - college paperwork all done.

Thanks for asking about her .

can I ask about what you said about ND teens functioning three years behind their chronological age?

That's interetsing - DD1 always been a odd mix of really old and really young - and always like with her suspected DS has at least dsypraxia as well. They've had some social issues but managed to find similar friends in all the educational settings they've been in.

Thank you re: three years behind chronological age info. That makes sense but yes would never say that to ds!

I’m so sorry to read that….. it’s so very unfair and sad that the day was marred by this 😣…….

Hey, this was AQA….. I’m sorry your daughter is going through the same….. bloody annoying!…… Yes, my DS initially legged it. It took a lot of persuasion ( and crying and shouting in the car!), to get him to go back inside. His name was already in the school “ Remark” list, so it was just a case of seeing the EO and signing the form, confirming wanting it remarked. Your daughters name is most probably on a similar list….. ( there were quite a lot!)..
Good Luck with that 😺!

We're waiting for DD1's sixth form - we are bottom of the criteria list, so her appointment for enrolment is next Thursday (their last day!). She has greatly exceeded the offer conditions so believes that her place is guaranteed, no matter that I've tried to explain it doesn't work like that at her chosen college, has point-blank refused to enrol online at her backup school (things were descending into tearful argument territory last night).

We're going to be stressing out until next Thursday and are not sure what we'll do if her first and second choices are both full at that point. The immature part of me is choreographing an "I told you so" dance just in case...

It's what we were told when DD was diagnosed (ADHD). My siblings were told the same in Australia and other parts of the UK.

Certainly most books I've read on ADHD will reference the 3 year thing. So not certain if there is a raft of peer-reviewed papers in the Lancet, but it's definitely widely known.

To be honest it's extremely helpful - even for just one's own sanity - when you are wondering why your child is incapable of lots of things.

And why I get really annoyed on Mumsnet and FB threads when you read things like 'students should be sorting their own choice of degree/completing UCAS form/task under consideration'. Some can, some shouldn't.

I'm having to do all the legwork for DD for universities - I can skim a webpage in seconds to see if it's useful, she'll be plodding through every word. So I am building her a spreadsheet with all the information she needs - module options, admissions requirements, size, open day dates etc etc so she can make decisions equipped with the facts. The universities have been more than happy to talk to me - I explain she is ND and will need information presented in a particular way and they are all fine with it. I am a complete dunce at her subject so won't be much of an influence!

Have friends with ND kids at Oxbridge and they have systems where parents of ND students know what assignments are coming up and when so they can nag from behind the scenes and help keep the show on the road.

Thank you so much ☺️…. Yes!! I think thank God how it turned out. I’m positive that if the lovely guy who had interviewed him had not been there at that exact time, then that would have been it. So. Phew!!!! 🤩

Well done, yours were fab!!! English 7! and Maths 8!

A-MAY-ZING!!! So, Biology, Chem, PE and Physics?! How exciting! You must be so proud!! 🥳

My DD enrolled today at FE college and while I did go with her because she wanted me too, it was set up so well that all the kids could manage on their own, so hopefully that was the same for your son's college. We did our LS meeting while we were there and I think DD would've found that bit daunting on her own, so it's good you'll be with him for his.

We’ve already had one marking review back (music). Got an extra mark, but needed two to go up a grade.

Gosh I never knew this, but it makes SO much sense as far as DD is concerned! She's always been behind her peers and markedly so. Her classmates are off to Reading with their boyfriends to get leathered, she wants to hang around at home with us still.