Oh, I really feel for you! First of all, I echo what @swampwitch0said earlier….. you have done amazingly to get to GCSE day in the first place… I think my 🤯would have happened, too, if my DS had chucked that curveball out last thing at night! ( or whatever the saying is!)..
I feel for your DD, too. My DS has had similar experience at school. He is AuDHD, has been bullied throughout, hated every second. Only a couple of friends. Despite this, I think if he had wanted to do A Levels, Stockholm syndrome would have given serious weight to him considering staying there. Luckily, he decided on a BTec at a new college in a different town. Your DD must obviously, despite her experiences, be distracted by the “ better the devil you know”, when faced with the comparative new, big, unknown college…. But, as pp too have said ( and, I hope for with DS) she could just flourish in the new college…. whole new way of learning.. fresh environment ….and, all those “ strangers are just friends you haven’t met, yet”…….
As @swampwitch0said, ( I have no idea 🤷♀️🙄😹, sorry!), if she can enrol at both, whilst she takes pause to decide, I would definitely recommend that, if it were my DS.
I really hope she decides soon, so that you can enjoy the “phew!! It really is over” of GCSE hell…🤞🤞🤞….
ps- I say that not from a smug position, by any stretch, but even here there is a distinct “ It is what it is, and at least we know and time to crack on”….
I wish you all huge 🍀!!! 😺