My ds went through it. Feel free to search my username for all my posts re my ds and how the schools attitude resulted in him having a knife pulled on him in class and then when he tried to end his own life through fear they refused to authorise his absence for illness as they didn't think he should be anxious.
He was already under camhs for what camhs diagnosed with school related anxiety. Which of course - was caused by the school.
My ds never misbehaved. The school even said this. But they'd punish him for walking out of class when the teacher refused for him to use his time out card (they gave him!) because they felt he was fine.
Ended up in a tribunal and the judge asked some very interesting questions to the senco - including - what's your job role, qualifications and why do you think what camhs and mum and ds are saying is untrue?!
He did a managed move which was so hard for him to start again when at the bottom of any confidence he ever had.
Turned out to be the best thing EVER. New school worked so hard with him - were open and honest with me - and made me feel like I was important in his life and in helping him rather than fighting me at every turn as being irrelevant as I'm not school staff.
The initial school told me on day 3 that they didn't need my input on how to support my ds because they are experts in education.
Should have realised then that they were "our way or the highway". Because they apparently didn't need input on how to support a child who has a genetic condition that 1:1 million people have - being experts in a condition they hadn't heard of and that many neurologists won't even ever have treated patients with 🤦🏼♀️
If my ds misbehaves he gets my boot! But it was literally nothing to do with bad behaviour but more he couldn't manage the pressures of being perfect and coping with school without support that they felt he should.