In what circs (if any) is it ok for a teacher to take a child in his room and completely let fly verbally so that classes 3 doors down can hear

[MerryPIFFLEmas]

just wondering before I go into school to castrate the fecker.
AIBU?
FWIW my ds1 has not told me this, a boy in a class 3 doors down from this teachers office, heard the bollocking and told his mum how bad it was. This mother is a good friend of mine.
She rung me, when qu ds1 told me details

i am LIVID beyond control

What had your ds done?

What did your DS do?

prob not "normal" nowadays but in secondary school that used to happen alot, at our school anyway.

ha this is the funny bit
he was away last wek being ill.
He had caught up his homework over last weekend.
On his return his chemistry teacher asked him to sit an important end of term assessment test in his break time, which ds1 did
though in doing so he also failed to hand in an assessement to another teacher in that break time.
DS made a decision that the test unsat was more presing as he could hand in the assessment form later
Oh how wrong was he.
that's it folks.
Never even had a detention before, never late with homework

Id find out what hes done to deserve it before going in all guns blazing. Teachers don't usually go beserk for the good of their health

and the teacher
RE FFS

It seems old fashioned and certainly not particularly constructive to treat a child in that manner and would have to have had BAD BAD actions to lead to it but it really does depend what he'd done for me....

Our teachers regularly bawled us out when I was at school but not with the dignity of being removed from the room.

Is DS1 ok? Have you spoken to him about it?
(Oh and how old is he? As, at secondary school it does still go on...)

Sounds like DS is only giving you half of the story. A late homework will not result in the teacher going beserk - think about it.

Must not start writing a post then pause to sort dcs out!

What sort of school is it? Public/ state/ catholic?

So he had a prior agreement to hand in an assignmet but decided he would sit an assessment instead without consulting the teacher. I can see how this would annoy but perhaps the screaming was a little ott.

Not quite.
As he did not have RE on that day (first day back after being ill) (Tuesday) he did not bring the assessment, thinking he would hand it to teach at next lesson.

He had no prior agreement, just aware that the teachers needed them this week.

Amtruly astonished that so many think it's par for the course.

for him to be called lazy, not special, worthless.
But there you go

Merry -
pretty much the same thing happened to me, yes I was never late with any homework, yes it was an RE teacher (bizarrely), yes the noise could be heard ALL OVER the school (summer windows open), yes he threw my pencil case at me. I did say very coldly at the end "bravo".
The birds in the trees stopped singing, the weaker girls fainted dead away.
He went absolutely ape, nobody including my other teachers could believe it.
My parents were not livid, I dealt with it as a 13 year old in much the same way as I would as an adult. I had the same contempt for his unreasonable behaviour as I would now, and I made it plain I wasn't intimidated.
He showed himself up in front of pupils AND COLLEAGUES who weren't particularly fond of him.
There were no negatives for me.

It sounds terrible but are you sure you have heard the full story? I'd ask for the teacher's version of events before getting too wound up.

i would go in and kick ass tbh.

Oh so that would make it alright then, verbal abuse if if did something more?
Still think teachers should be better than that. Truly do.

So what was the problem as the teacher saw it? I had a few nutters for teachers but then I went to school with Oliver Twist. I really hoped they would all have died or left by now.

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Dunno but in my old secondary, you could hear one teacher shout at a pupil alot further than 3 classes away.

I would be upset though if one of my dc were shouted at like that.

I understand your anger. Can you channel it somewhere?

If you're up to it, leave a message for the teacher to call you and discuss it with him. NOt much time for a meeting now before Christmas.

Alternatively, write a letter to the head

It's not ok. Teachers are only human and no better than the rest of us but this behaviour is not acceptable IMO

Very Proffessional NOT

I am with piff on this, i would be raging about that kind of ott behaviour and definitely be down there wanting to speak to the teacher in q, and possibly their seniors

This is a boys' school, isn't it, Piff? Could be that bawling out happens regularly and that this one was not as bad as reported by DS's friend - I mean if DS had felt hard done by he'd have told you himself, wouldn't he?

Interesting though that DS hadn't mentioned it himself - agree that getting the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth from an adolescent is nigh on impossible (My DS2 is a master of spin - I am trying to steer him into a political career )

Piff - this is not normal.

this is terrible

I would go in and ask for the teachers side of it first.
Your son sounds like he is conscientious - my ds1 would avoid catching up at all costs

WW - i think that kids don't mention things like this....some of the time - shame? May be poor old piffs boy thinks he was really bad