Any success with ADHD and 'highly selective' schools?

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My DS was diagnosed with ADHD 2 years ago (not a shock). He is quite academic: sits comfortably in the top half of top sets for Maths and English in a very academic school. He is in Year 5.
We had a parents' evening recently where our Head basically implied that we should "manage our expectations" because no matter how well he does in the entrance exams to 'very good' schools, many "are not supportive of SEN children". My husband heard the conversation differently, but I read it as: "don't bother with the very selective schools".
I must stress that the school has been nothing but supportive of his needs and his teacher is particularly optimistic about his opportunities.
Has anyone with an ADHD boy had any success with getting into super-selectives at 11+? If so, and appropriate, can you name the school. Thank you.

can anyone share the experience with girls having ADHD, even better in London or SW ?
thank you

please @MGMidget can you PM me too.
Thanks

My son is similar in that he is diagnosed (HF) ASD but his behaviour can present like ADHD.
Or possibly just "naughty" behaviour if you are his primary school.
He's always academically great so am looking at an understanding independent secondary. We've looked at a few open days recently and he really liked a couple.
@Summerishere12 I'd love to know which school you recommend.
@MGMidget also would love it if you could DM me.

Hi @mgmidget just found this thread and would love any info on north/west schools for similar. Thank you!

@11plusNewbie

I started a similar thread re girls recently www.mumsnet.com/Talk/secondary/4339564-SW-SE-London-or-Surrey-indy-schools-for-academic-DD-with-SN in case it’s helpful

Hi Sofya,
re: ADHD and Secondary Schools
please can I get in touch with you?
thank you

Please pm me if this talk is still live? I need help on ADHD and secondary schools
thank you
Hope