Boarding school for DD but not for DS

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This question is not about boarding versus day school, but I just wanted to know what people thought about my DD going to weekly boarding school in year 7, given that her brother won't. He has ASD in state school but the atmosphere at home can be toxic around his mood swings and attitude towards her. Of course there is always the risk that my DD will feel her brother is being favoured, but nothing could be further from the truth, and we would make a point of reassuring her. We've found a fabulous school and she's keen to board. They get on well when they've been apart, but the sibling rivalry has been getting her down for years and I feel this is her chance to fly and have breathing space. Genuinely seeking views/advice.

dear Atomic and HoHo, could we form a sub-group, kind of mutual support and encouragement. not to wallow, but I felt moved by both your contributions. can't really explain what I mean, but it feels real.
anyway, thank you for your sharings, also some spot-on points made by NoMoreCleaning. good luck to you n yours all.

OP, does your DS have an EHCP? How is he getting on at his current school?

I ask because my DS1 has complex autism and numerous other challenges. He was in mainstream (with 1:1 support) until Year 6, when he moved to a specialist school and became a weekly boarder there. He has been incredibly violent towards DS2 and that’s why we decided that he would weekly board. To start with he accused us of “sending him away”, and we certainly felt guilty of this, but actually it’s been life changing for all of us. DS1 has ‘found his tribe’ at his specialist school and is more contented there and doing better than we ever imagined possible. They’ve taught him life skills so that he feels better about himself and we all get on better as a result. He’s now in Y9 and at the beginning of the school year the boarding house closed due to not enough interest in boarding. We were all worried about how our family dynamic would be affected and DS1 was heartbroken as he loved boarding so much. But....he’s doing amazingly as a day pupil, in spite of a lengthy journey twice a day, and he and DS2 have developed the most beautiful relationship with only very occasional brotherly thumping. It’s certainly not all sunshine and rainbows but I did want to share our positive experience with you, because boarding has helped DS1 so much.

No my DS doesn't have an EHCP and is in a mainstream school. I value the comments, and I'm pleased to hear it worked out with sending the autistic child to a boarding school as another option. The separation just seems to give the children some breathing space that they otherwise can't get. Thanks again everyone!