3 different punishments over a 5 month period for one incident -is this even legal ?

[LifeIz]

I have two kids at this school, one in year 7 and one in year 10. My DD was talking to friends during a lesson, her friend mention that her parent said the teacher was primordial, while my DD in response said her parent mention that the teacher was tribal... this conversation resulted in my DD having three different punishments, one being a 5 day internal exclusion, now she's on her fourth for the same incident, because the teacher said the first three punishments were not severe enough, culminating in another exclusion (this time external). [ angry]

So you have met this teacher? Your OP implies that you have, if both you and other parent were able to say that teacher was this, that or the other.

Have you met with the teacher?

OP your dd was racist and spiteful. To a teacher.
Suck it up.

Could I suggest that you PM me, with relevant facts on what happened 5 months ago and how you ended up with a 5 day external exclusion for the same issue, if you do not believe that you can put any more details in posts. I would also want to know in detail what the email about the 5 day exclusion said.
Then I might be able to offer some advice on what you can and cannot do, based on my experience as Chair of Governors and the fact that I have sat on Independent Review Panels for permanent exclusions 9 times this academic year.

Do take up Admission’s kind offer, because this situation really does need closer scrutiny.

Can I third, if it is ever necessary, admission's advice, and urge you to take up her kind offer, because it sounds like you have a very complex and difficult history with this teacher and, now, the school, which will be hard to unpick in the sense of proving which behaviour led to the other. It sounds like there has been a complete interpersonal breakdown, but only going from your fragmented posts, which is bound to happen when you are responding in real time to forum posts. If you have a single conversation with @admission, where you can give a more coherent history of the situation, she can guide you properly.

Either way, I hope you can work with the school to create a more positive relationship going forward, because this will benefit your DD hugely, no matter who was at fault in this last year. I sincerely hope that her status as a child of colour is not being used in any way against her - it's awful if that's true.

Even if what your daughter said was undisputedly racist she should have had a clear punishment at the time, if it merited external exclusion, that should have happened straight away.

But I'd say too late now, let's see what next year brings.

Hi Admission are you online ? - just PM'd you.