GCSEs 2018 (14): the aftermath

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Following on from www.mumsnet.com/Talk/secondary/3275972-GCSEs-2018-13-Untwisting-our-knickers-lucky-for-some

Sostenueto what a brilliant thing to say!I wish I'd seen their faces at that point!
Must say their choice of transport sounds rather uncomfortable...

Go sostenuto!

What I thought was nice at Dds prom was those with spaces in their “transport” offered lifts to those without.

I went to a 25yr reunion, having not been back once in between. The 'cool' kids weren't even there! And no one knew what had happened to them. One guy who used to tease me a lot (although I knew he only did it because his mates did) has since married one of the girls in our year who I was friendly with, and said to me at the reunion "I'm sorry if I gave you a hard time. I don't know why we did it to some people, I suppose we were jealous but didn't realise at the time. You never followed the herd and I do admire that" We all had a smashing evening as it turned out that we were all equally nervous about seeing each other and wondering if old nicknames would resurface or we'd be shunned like we were at school. It's a long way off but I like to tell DS that one day he will be the one that people want to be seen with (and for better reasons than new trainers or sneaking vodka in to school!)

cubscout I'm really sorry (and a bit scared!) about how the prom went. I can't help but feel rage against boys who would exclude someone like that.

The other invitations will make him put it in the past though, and that's something I'd be emphasising in your shoes.

DS's prom is next week. I think he's ok about it, despite having no one to walk in with. We'll see what happens.

This Glory Days song by Bruce Springsteen probably shows my age but, I think it says everything that needs to be said about outcomes for the cool kids:

Oh so true terf terf the best thing was seeing how dgd was transformed in makeover and dress and the surprise on peoples faces when they realised it was her! Many compliments but the very best bit was when dgd looked in mirror and saw how pretty she really was. She had very low confidence in herself and she could not quite believe that here she was transformed into a lovely butterfly! No hanging back and acting like a wallflower anymore as she is already asking did for this, that and the other make-up whereas before she never bothered even when we tried to encourage her.

TerfTerf I'll have my own year 11 in 2020 and I'll have the opposite problem to you again: high confidence and expectations that may need to be tempered quite a bit.

DS2 speaks like he expects to get similar/ better GCSE grades to DS1, get into the same super-selective sixth form and go to whichever Oxbridge university that his brother doesn't go to (even though DS1 doesn't think he's going to Oxbridge at all)

I'll have two Y11s in 2020.
DD is averagely able but hard working.
DS3 only works hard in the subjects he enjoys.

cub Your DS is a for giving it a go and how sad that nobody even spoke to him! Such a shame he didn't have even one mate going along who would have been good company and I'm sure there will be a more mature bunch to share 6th Form with.

Hope he enjoys his pizza and poker and a lovely 3-week holiday! Sounds much more fun for him. Safe travels.

OMG! My DS just asked me to shave off his fledgling 'tache which has been getting a little darker over the past few months. Now he's all baby-faced again for his Prom Cant decide which tie to wear though!

Hair done, off to get her make up done in a minute. I did force DD to help me clean my car for this evening. It may not be novelty, but it is probably newer than most of the other vehicles there (18 reg, black & shiny!)

Prom for DD is on Wednesday, no after party planned so they are just going to hang out in a field, good to see mine isn't the only one planning to do that. She's actually quite sensible, as are her friends, so I'm hoping they don't get too carried away!

We're only our way to London for the weekend and to see the lovely Mr Aiden Turner on a play. Train journey has been a nightmare but at least we won't miss it

Awwwww...I feel so tearful Went to watch all the kids arrive at Prom. DS went with his mate who he's known all his life. Then got a pic of him with two close friends (they were inseparable from their first day at Primary until they made new mates at Secondary). So proud of them all. Our very anxious friend came with his very assertive female chum and looked relaxed for the first time in months. A lovely low-key event but well-supported by all the locals who turn out to cheer them in to school.

Well, I thought I had posted but obviously hadn't. You finally get to see her & her strap marks!

Lovely photos, terf and sticker.

Oh to be able to go braless!

Another gorgeous hairdo!

That’s the exact same dress Dds best friend wore sticker. She bought it last year & knew it was the one straight away.

It’s so classy.

We got it before Christmas, so it was a sale bargain!

Yes, her mum said hers was too!

Well this week of induction days has worked out well in the end although it has left me pretty angry for my DS. He came back enthused from Sixth Form College on Monday and had enjoyed his day which was really positive but didn't want to make a decision until he been to the other Sixth Form on Thursday and Friday. He was one of 12 asked to join this sixth form because of his sporting skills and its an OFSTED outstanding school. Not one teacher showed him where to go, he had to make his way to a different site on his own without guidance. No one spoke to him or helped him, he had a group of boys refer to him as the 'white ting'. It was disgusting and I'm ready to complain but what's the point. It's best we found out now before he went there in September. At least the decision has been made now...

That's awful Ggirl. You should tell the school about the racism though.

It does make the decision a no-brainer though, which is a positive.

That is the only positive, it took so much courage for him to go along to a school where her knew no-one to try it out. It's a big sixth form too with about 250 pupils, he thought it might be difficult as they don't usually take external students so everyone would already have their friendship groups set but he thought he'd man up and give it a go. To make him feel so out of his depth when he'd psyched himself up to put himself out there made my heart break for him. For the kids not to be welcoming is one thing, but for the teachers to be the same is disgraceful

Ugh ggirl what a horrible experience Definitely complain to School though. Those kids need telling that's no way to behave.

DS has come home a bit early from Prom, he said it got a bit boring after the meal and loads of the 'cool kids' went outside to smoke
But when we picked him up he was out by the front door with 7 mates who were all laughing and joking with us and genuinely wishing him well.

And he got the PM award Unanimous apparently.. and in good company with many others on this thread!
Prom done: bring on sixth form!

Ggirl27 not nice for him at all but at least he knows what the place is like now.

When DS2 started at his secondary school he was sometimes called 'gora' by boys who didn't know him very well. He would just raise an eyebrow and reply 'How observant of you.'