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So where's this years Trinity/Whitgift/Dulwich/Alleyns thread

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soooooooknowwhat · 05/01/2018 21:18

And any other schools you may wish to add... Have used threads from the previous few years as part of my research and ds sat Trinity today! I'm more of a lurker than a thread starter but decided to bite the bullet and offer a hand to hold. Good luck to all dc's sitting exams over the next few weeks! Grin

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MeetieVonWrinkleSqueak · 09/02/2018 12:51

emma, I know it’s not the news you were hoping for, but there is still every chance you will be offered a place over the next few weeks as waiting lists move. Most people will have sat for more than 1 school - and W is not always everyone’s first choice.

As PP have said, definitely phone the school ASAP to let them know that you definitely want a place if it comes up.

Jige · 09/02/2018 12:56

Emma please don't be so dishearten, a wait list is not a full blown rejection. I would follow with the others advise and call admissions. Also remember that all of these schools would have over offered, many here have sat at least 2 or more for these schools, and at the end of the day you can only pick one.

MeetieVonWrinkleSqueak · 09/02/2018 13:06

10+ offer and academic scholarship for T here. Super proud of DS2!!!

Good luck to those still waiting.

spacecadet48 · 09/02/2018 13:12

emma303 don't panic. My eldest was on the waiting list for W and got a place. We called and stressed it was our 1st choice and would definitely take the place.

Firefox1066 · 09/02/2018 13:35

Yay! 10+ W Offer and Sports Scholarship!! So pleased for DS2.

Good luck to all those still waiting

stourton · 09/02/2018 13:42

Congrats , well done to your DS Meetie and Firefox. Really happy for you.

As everyone says emma, this is not a rejection.

All the best.

MeetieVonWrinkleSqueak · 09/02/2018 13:44

Well done to your DS firefox!

Tolacar · 09/02/2018 14:15

We have had a few offers......can't quite believe it! Well done to all those with offers and for those on WL, they will shift soon enough! Keep the faith! Thanks for all the support on this thread!

turboturtle · 09/02/2018 14:28

Emma My dear friend has just been offered 3 schools - W being one of them, but it is not their first choice, so when they reject which they will do today, there WILL be a space for your DS Smile

SoupDragon · 09/02/2018 14:36

It doesn’t quite work like that unfortunately . It will take a while to get to the wait list as they will have offered more places what’s the have spaces.

However,every turned down place is a good thing for boys on the wait list! Fingers crossed lots of boys preferred other schools!

Jige · 09/02/2018 14:45

Also depends on where you stand in the wait list, I would ring admissions to find out what number in the wait list your DS is to give you some idea.

turboturtle · 09/02/2018 14:47

Soup Yes - you are absolutely right. More offers are made than there are spaces.
The point I was trying to make (badly) was that there are so many people that have had multiple offers, and every turned down space brings Emma's DS closer to an offer

orangetiger · 09/02/2018 14:58

Firefox1066 AWESOME your DS must be off the scale brilliant sportsman to get a SS. just got our letter its a standard offer but we'll take it - just have to work out how to pay for it now...

WarmAndco3y · 09/02/2018 15:26

Congratulations to everyone on their good news.
And re: waiting lists, as pp have said they do shift especially 11+ and after grammar allocations in March.

Good news here too, DD got offers with scholarships from the schools she sat. So it’s now decision time over the half term break Smile

Emma303 · 09/02/2018 15:43

Thank you everyone for the positivity I don't want to give DS false hope but he's so upset right now . We Will wait and see what happens in March

Catchmum2017 · 09/02/2018 16:14

Sorry Emma303 to hear this . It always heart breaking to see the DCS suffering and feeling low. The whole 11+ process is a farce and the immense pressure the children go through merely at 10 + and 11+ is not really needed .
DS got Offer from W and waiting from T . We are still waiting for the local grammar news in 1st March to decide .
If he gets allocated to his 1st two choices from local Gs , we will decline the offer .
I am sure there will be many like us who will go by the same route .
Please be patient I know it’s easier said than done and I am sure the best will work out for you and your DS . All the best .
To everyone else huge congratulations to you all and your DS es .. I hope whatever the outcome is , it will be the best for us in long run .

Perplexed73 · 09/02/2018 16:49

After all the nail biting of the last few weeks and the elation of being shortlisted for interview at Alleyns my DC got wait listed today. I know ppl say let the school know it's your first choice ( which I have), but realistically does it not depend on many over offers they made? I know they interviewed 238 for approx 90 places ( because the juniors get automatic entry), but if they over offer by double then surely the wait list is unrealistic? However if they only over offered by 50 places for example then wait list still OK place to be? Thx

LondonUSAmum · 09/02/2018 17:00

Perplexed73 I don’t know for
Sure but our Head we must email alleyn’s today to let them if it’s our choice. He knows the school very well and said we had a good chance of coming off the waitlist but you must let them know how keen you are.

I think we are going to decline our spot on the waitlist yet today. Our Head strongly feels it’s the right school for DD but we are happy with other offers.

Perplexed73 · 09/02/2018 17:33

Thanks LondonUSA. We are seeing our head after half term and I have emailed Alleyns....but I think I will drive myself crazy in the meantime trying to work out Alleyns secret offer / over offer formula. I wish schools would make process more transparent!

IntheMotherhood · 09/02/2018 17:37

Glad to hear that DCs have got their offers. Re waitlist - the game isn't over. All the advice already given is spot on. I know many kids who got in via waitlist.

We got a yes from W 11+
DS 1st choice.

I'm keeping my fingers crossed for everyone else who has yet to receive the news they want.

soooooooonowwhat · 09/02/2018 17:37

Hi all, finally home! Emma, please don't assume the worst, I have heard of many dc's getting places off waitlist and thriving!

So...we have good news, ds has scholarship offers from all the schools we applied to! I had started the day optimistic and by 17:00 convinced that I would have to deliver ds bad news so enormously relieved as well as chuffed. So glad the worst of this is over for us but mindful of how horribly stressful it is for those still waiting to here. Keeping fingers crossed for everyone else and here to handhold. Now to decide what will be our best option!

Scoobydoobydoo · 09/02/2018 18:31

Well done to all DCs and parents regardless of outcome for coming this far!
Hope it's good news for those waiting anxiously. Fingers crossed and I share the pain.

A late entrant to this thread (this week) but I hope its ok to join in?

We had one confirmed indie offer earlier this week and a wait list today for our preferred indie school.
I called the admissions team and enquired about the position on the wait list before telling my daughter the news. Looks like she missed by a couple of spaces.
I told them we are keen so we could stay on the list (until March at least!)

However we are equally hopeful for our preferred grammar and agonising over private vs grammar schools.
I am in such a turmoil if I shouldn't have mentioned "keen" assuming we choose grammar later.
We do love this indie and would be applying for our son in a few years and also possibly for our daughter again for 6th form.
Its just that the thought of 7 years of fees for 2 kids makes me want to tread this cautiously.
Silly question but will schools look at us less favourably if we turned down this one after saying "keen" and then reapply for DS or DD again in a few years.

spacecadet48 · 09/02/2018 19:11

scooby they would have an issue if you accepted a place and then changed your mind. My nephew parents accepted an offer and then within a day or two changed their minds. Their DS2 also applied three years later and didn't even get an invite for an interview! That had nothing to do with the exam I am sure as this boy is in Westminster school and got offered scholarships for all he applied for apart from that one who didn't even invite for an interview..

Scoobydoobydoo · 09/02/2018 20:50

spacecadet

Thanks for your reply
hope we never have to be in that situation!

Catchmum2017 · 09/02/2018 21:35

Just out of curiosity and bit of tension my next query pardon my long post please .
Son is a bit demoralised for not making it to Trinity . He is in the waiting list . Strangely he passed all his other local gs exams especially all 3 schools in Sutton , st Olaves and even Kent ( as a back up we gave ) . trinity was his first choice in Indies . My query is do you know historically or realistically there has been any child who has not cleared Trinity but still got offers from
Wilson’s? Wilsons is my DS first choice and he will leave any school , any scholarship for it but I know that it’s a very very difficult one to get . I am always told it’s the other way round for children . They clear Indies but not Sutton grammar schools especially . I have my own friends’ children who has done it this year.
My DS is probably one of the rare ones who went the opposite way . Maybe it’s just a day he lost his concentration , maybe it was a bit of a drag for him to go thru this process for almost an Year whatever it is , he didn’t make it to T atleast in the first round . I am actually quite alrite with it and have been the most positive one at home ,
More positive than DS and DH and happy that he got offer from W . But also a bit nervous about 1st March .
Sorry about my long post once again .. actually was upset to see my DS and DH disheartened and instead of discussing the same thing with them again and again came to the forum to get some solace !

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