Not rich kid in private secondary

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My ds is in yr5. I think this is the time you need to think about secondary school.
State option is very limited, and there is great private secondary not too far away.
We can't afford the fee, but maybe can seek out bursary. Maybe not.
But the thing is, even we can get bursary, we may not be able to afford to pay all those expensive trips abroad etc. that comes with going to private school.
I really don't want to put my ds through entrance exam, 11+ etc., if we decide to send him to local state anyway.

I would like to ask the parents who sends kids to private secondary with bursary how does it work out? Do your kids feel ok about parents aren't rich compared to others? Do they have good experience?

Zzzz I just mean people can be mean everywhere and there's snobs everywhere. There where snobs when my children where at state school too . The end of terraces houses people would not speak to those in the middle for example - many people would not speak to foreigners or those who lived on council estates ...
That's what I mean , there's idiots everywhere.

That's ok . In short : I think a not rich kid on a bursary should be fine .Some schools pay for all the expenses . This answers the question.
I don't think he would be treated badly , not worse than anywhere else.

I have never hot housed my children, I am proud to say I've never owned a flash card in my life.
But mini you're right my choice of words: "unmotivated and uninvolved" was totally inappropriate and incorrect I who've worked with disadvantaged much of my working life should know better. I incorrectly extrapolated it from your comments "support/tutoring".
Some of the "big name" who are trying to move to needs blind entry point have yr 9 entry point, this obviously doesn't work well for those in the state sector. Secondly the registration/admissions process often requires knowledge and organisation on the part of parents, this is often provided by prep schools and other parents at prep schools. For those who are unfamiliar with this world it must seem like a different planet in comparison with the admissions process in state ed.