It's not your school that brings advantages it's your home life. My DS's are have MC educated parents, we live in a great area, rural, no crime, clean, with predominately other MC families we basically socialise with MC families and friends we do MC things, our DS's have been exposed to art music drama literature etc from a very early age, we eat MC food, we and our MC friends and families have MC expectations. Doing well at school, going to university, getting a good job, is an unspoken given. I doubt it's ever crossed my children's mind that they would do this everyone they've known of the right age all their lives has done this.
I couldn't agree more. Mine are at state secondary after private prep. It's a high performing comprehensive. I wouldn't suggest for a second that they're getting a similar experience to those at Eton / Westminster etc but it's definitely not far off your standard independent day school and they aren't disadvantaged in any way. They don't talk about if they go to university, they talk about when they go to university and who out of their crowd will go to Oxbridge and who will only go to Bristol / Leeds/Nottingham. They don't talk about jobs, they talk about careers as it's a given that's what they'll do. They see their friends parents as Lawyers, bankers, TV producers, partners in Accountancy firms and in Management Consultancy, as doctors and dentists and barristers and journalists. They know of the ones who have sold out for a fortune and those who are on TV and written about in the broadsheets and they just assume that's the route they'll take. There's no discussion as to whether they'll take A Levels, they just will. And they will get a leg up because because DH works in the city, and best friends dad owns a production company, and friend they play tennis with has a mum who is an oncologist and the person up the road's dad sold to Google for x many £m. These are people they see and talk to daily and when their friends want work experience in our fields their parents will reciprocate in their fields. It has nothing to do with their state education and everything to do with it being what they see daily and perceive as normal.