Do we choose a school that's right for DC or one that's right for the whole family?

[mckenzie]

DD has been offered places at two schools, both of which are good and suitable and so that's great.
Problem is, DD favours one school but DH and I favour the other.
The school that DD favours is a longer school day, a longer school week and is further to travel. We think it will have a negative impact on family life and eventually therefore on the family itself.

Does DD get the final say? She is adamant that she is making the right choice for her.

id only let her go to the other school if she can weekly board. Thats way too much time travelling otherwise

I'm with you there Maydancer. She is like my DH in that respect and I should have realised.
If he and I go shopping and I like a particular shirt, I have to pick it up and show him whilst turning my nose up and saying how horrid it is.
Then I walk away and look at other shirts while he goes up and buys the one that I pretended to dislike. Works every time.

No! DD has gone back to her first choice

She may well be right from the sound of it. Try not to worry! If it isn't clear cut (and really it isn't - you having to drive her to and from school is going to seem a big drawback when she's 15!) she may as well make her own choice of dis/advantage.

she's dithering
you have to decide. just do it.