Do we choose a school that's right for DC or one that's right for the whole family?

[mckenzie]

DD has been offered places at two schools, both of which are good and suitable and so that's great.
Problem is, DD favours one school but DH and I favour the other.
The school that DD favours is a longer school day, a longer school week and is further to travel. We think it will have a negative impact on family life and eventually therefore on the family itself.

Does DD get the final say? She is adamant that she is making the right choice for her.

[Branleuse]

id only let her go to the other school if she can weekly board. Thats way too much time travelling otherwise

[mckenzie]

I'm with you there Maydancer. She is like my DH in that respect and I should have realised.
If he and I go shopping and I like a particular shirt, I have to pick it up and show him whilst turning my nose up and saying how horrid it is.
Then I walk away and look at other shirts while he goes up and buys the one that I pretended to dislike. Works every time.

[mckenzie]

No! DD has gone back to her first choice

[ScottishProf]

She may well be right from the sound of it. Try not to worry! If it isn't clear cut (and really it isn't - you having to drive her to and from school is going to seem a big drawback when she's 15!) she may as well make her own choice of dis/advantage.

[TeddTess]

she's dithering
you have to decide. just do it.