Imjustahead I went through a stage of asking dd how she'd done on tests and whether she thought she could have done better. I pressed that extra work would lead to better grades. I tried to push her. I didn't think I was a pushy parent, but I'd ask, 'how did your friends do?' leading to the inevitable comparisons. Now I've stopped doing that.
I've told dd that her goal isn't to be perfect, because that's not achievable. I've told her to think about what she really needs, not what she ideally wants. At this stage, it's 5 x GCSE's from A to C. In most subjects she'll probably get A's, but in maths, she thinks it'll be a B and in science it might be a C. I've told her that she has to put in some work, but that her only focus needs to be the exams and she just needs to pass at C or above. She doesn't have to worry about other people. I've stopped asking about her friends grades. It shouldn't bother me. When she was little I compared to make sure she was hitting milestones. That's not appropriate now. So what if child A got an A*? It's not my business. If she decides to tell dd, dd can say well done. I got an A or a B or even a C and that's o.k.
Also, they are introducing the Year 10 syallabus at the end of exams and before the 6 weeks holidays. DD said she was more stressed about that than the exams. I've told her not to worry about the pre-holidays work. It'll be 4 weeks worth at most. She can just pitch up to classes, smile and listen, but not stress about anything she doesn't take in. They'll have to do a sweep up after the holidays and if they don't, I'll cover any gaps then. I'm not a teacher, but I'm sure I can help her catch up if she misses anything.
I'm tired of the education system piling on pressure. I know it's the government, not the teachers, who are fault, but I refuse to play that game. My child doesn't miss classes, doesn't turn up late, doesn't cheek her elders and is a grafter. If they ask too much, she has my permission to down tools and take a rest. If they don't like it, they can contact me. Our deal is that she works hard enough to get 5 x GCSEs from grade A to C. Anything else is optional.