Absent from school already!

[Shazjack1]

Ds got sent home from school yesterday with a headache which he later admitted it was really because he just hates his new school, no friends in his class and that he's really anxious and scared every minute that he's there. I told him it would get better in time but this morning he was hysterical and locked himself in the loo for an hour crying. Had to keep him off, hysteria didn't stop until about 10am. He's 11 so just gone into secondary school. Please tell me this will pass, I'm beyond stressed! Never had any problems like this with him before.

Shazjack1 your message really struck a chord with me. We have moved DS from a state primary to a private secondary where he knows no- one. We have had so much upset over the summer with tears and him begging us to let him go to the local school. in a moment of weakness (and feeling really guilty) I said that if he was genuinely unhappy, we would move him, but he had to give it a try. I did arrange for him to meet up with another lad over the holidays which helped a bit, although I heard today that DS had told him that he would be leaving at Xmas to go to his local school. I can see where this has come from and I'm really regretting what I said. I'm thinking that I should probably ignore the comment rather than tackle him about it but part of me is worried that he thinks if he sits out the first term, we'll move him. Any thoughts from anyone whose been there or going through something similar? Really hope things get easier for everyone next week, this is so stressful xx