Whitgift and Trinity 11+ exams and Interviews

[mummax]

Hi all
I am new to this. I am loving this site.
Has anyone's DS taken an 11+ exam at Whitgift or Trinity this year. We have taken both and have an interview at Whitgift.
Any tips for a first timer.

PS ladies 98 posts and we made the 1000

Morning All! How are we all holding up? I can't believe how long each day is lasting at the moment - it seems like this fortnight is lasting at least 18months At least we will know once we have the letters rather than this endless swinging between hope, confidence, worry and dispair (or is that just me ?)

Morning girls. Thanks stressederica that gives us an idea of when the waiters on the waiting list will start to hear. Anyway, none of us are going to be on the waiting list. Postitive thinking is what we now need! We are all going to get offers-OK! I think, I hope, oh god losing it already

Soup landymuck tell us some positive statistics quick!!

Um... Currently 0% of my children have been rejected by either Whitgift or Trinity.

[helpful]

Hello all,

Holding up, just about, I keep getting waves of panic sweeping over me when I least expect it, not helpful when I'm working!
How can something like this make you feel physically sick? Other than that coping really well

Still reading all the posts so I am lurking in the background, the posts are really helping, making me realise we are all in the same boat and contrary to popular belief I am perfectly sane in feeling like this!
Positive thought waves to all.

Just to emerge from the shadows once again, good luck to us all...roll on half term, let the days fly quickly! Here's some positive thought, any celebratory plans for your DSs??!!

Well just think ladies (and any gents lurking in the background) this week for all of us is going soooo slowly as I am sure next week will!!!
I am thankfully working on 17th but having half day, so the postman doesn't think I want him personally again!!!
As for a celebration, my DS just wants a steak dinner at home...argh sure it just because he don't want people seeing him mother kissing him and hugging him in public!!!

EEeeeeek just received letter for my DD offering her a place and a scholarship!!! I am so thrilled for her, believe me we did not see it coming!! I am literally shaking as I type this. Fingers crossed that all of you get the news you hope for and experience the same feeling soon xx
Now just need to wait for ds letter..........

Fabulous news well done to your dd. Fingers crosed for your ds too.

juicy0 im absolutley thrilled for you-well done your DD-clever girl!!
one down one to go!
I burst into tears when I heard my DS passed the T exam-I'll be a gonna if he has passed! It will answer all my prayers.
Frankies my boy will be the same-hugging and kissing him at home is one thing but a no no in public doesnt stop me though

Oh G, I mean a gonna if he is accepted. See, Im all of a tither just thinking about it

With a little time on my hands ( a rarity) does anyone know if there is anywhere online i can look up Surrey league tables for schools ( just a nosey interest thats all)

bbc on line does them. If you go to the Dept of Education website I think that you'll get more info. You can also look at the FT list of schools if you can go behind the paywall or here which ignores soft subjects.

ENOUGH!!!!!! I use keep away for the dreaded Mrs Perfect Mum with the wide mouth, bleached teeth, perfect DH, DS, DD Grrrrr. Claims her friend has spoken to W via the phone who confirmed that an offer will be made and a scholarship........ so delicate, sleep starved, pmt, stressed, worried, life in a blur and haze ME phones W today. "I am very sorry but we are unable to confirm the status of any boys applications to attend the school, we are intending for all letters confirming the position to be sent to all parents on the 16th of February..." ME "Yes, yes, but,but, a parent claims that they called you and you told her.... please I can handle the rejection, just need to know" (in squeaky mouse voice). W "Look, I understand how you feel, but it is just idle gossip, we just cannot break the rules, sorry". JUST RETURNING TO MY HOLE TO HIDE. Where is that half bottle I left.....

What is wrong with me, "I use keep away for the dreaded Mrs Perfect", should be I need to keep away!!

Keeping. We must not listen to idle gossip. We know the results are posted on 16th. we know that the letter will arrive on the 17th. And repeat....

thnks Seeline.....

I have just come to this site, so excuse me if I get the lingo wrong. I too have a boy hoping to get into T, did not bother with W for no other reason than we were warned off by his teacher that he might not be up to the academic side of things, whereas because he is sporty T might be the way forward. This whole process in terms of stress is right up there. Keepittogether I know exactly what you mean, there is always that perfect mum (I know one too) who has historically been right about all sorts of things, somehow has information about things before anyone else, so when she says 'I heard that XYZ has got in and has a full scholarship' we believe her, but in this case I really do not think the schools would risk leaking anything early. Don't return to your hole to hide, like all the Mums/Dads here who have posted their anxiety online as a way of releasing the pressure, your boy has done his very best and so have you, it is just a very cruel over crowded area we live in we are chasing too few places. Good luck to everyone who is waiting to hear about 10,11+ as someone said this and next week are the slowest I have known! I feel a little less stressed having typed this, but I think I might need to meet my old chum Ms Pinot Grigio later for some R&R!

I'm convinced that those who have"been offered places, scholarships etc." are not telling the truth the whole truth and nothing but the truth The policy is that the offers are posted an the 16th and no sooner, surely the schools would not risk their reputations by letting the "chosen few" know earlier. I don't doubt that there may have been some positive vibes picked up on ie: "he's scholarship material, he achieved a really high score" and there may even have been parents who have got through "the gatekeepers" and may have spoken to the person who interviewed their child. They would have been positive but there is a big difference between them or the school calling and information/reality gets twisted during stressful times like these! There is a set proceedure and until it's in front of us in black and white it's not a given. I went through all of this with my eldest DS and strangely enough 2 of the "wonder mums" who had been phoned or told at interview that they had a place didn't take them up but went elsewhere and 1 in particular wasn't seen for a while after the offers were made. Don't listen. Our wonderful children will be fine. We are nearly there. Perhaps asking "wonder mum" who contacted them and made the offer and then stating how pleased you were for them but how unprofessional you felt the school had been in offering before the dates stated and asking if they minded you using their name as you were going to contact the head or the board of governers might give a slightly different story. (Obviously this is something that only happens in my dreams. I wish I had had the guts to do it first time round!) Hang on in there Well that's my stress relieving rant for the day!!

p.s

Fab. news juicy o :)

Sorry for the rant, just feeling the stress! Have been reading through older posts and smiling, again, at our kidnapping peacocks, wallabies, headmasters in our white vans whilst jumping on handsome teachers and lurking in the background. We should write a book about this whole process.

"Offers of places

Offers of 10+, 11+ and 13+ places are likely to be posted to parents on Thursday 16 February 2012, in accordance with an 11+ agreement between Trinity Group schools. Parents will be asked to reply within a few days. If parents need to hear before this date, perhaps because they have been made an offer by a non-Trinity Group school and are being pressed for a definitive reply, they should contact the Admissions Registrar."

It is possible to find out before the 16th February (the above is taken off the Trinity school website), but I think that you would have had to name your alternative school first to get the information! I think that one of the SW London schools is not party to the Trinity Group agreement, but most decent schools are.

So, why you need to do is to phone up and say "X school is pressing us for an answer.... what can you tell me?" :)

@Ladymuck

Thank you for the information it clears up how some offers are made prior to letters coming out and of course makes perfect sense for those with other offers and having to make a decision.

I, like others have heard various conversations about offers being made at interview and by schools calling parents. Is this idle gossip? Should really be immune to this all by now, stomach clenching when conversations in the school playground have revolved around some stating their offers were made at interview etc. not as above as in the need to make the decision on another school. Does it happen?

Having been through this with DS1 I should in theory know better than to listen! My resolution is to pop ear plugs in on entering the playground for the next 2 days and to avoid any gatherings until the postman calls! :)

Thank you again for the info. Ladymuck, it's totally understandable. I'm just fazed as to whether other offers are made in any other way, have heard a fair few conversations which imply that's the case but really believed and want to believe otherwise.

@ soupdragon

Has anyone rung and asked that question/ Is it worth a try!?? :)

Am I cracking up under the stress of it all? Only a few more days.. breathe in breathe out. Thinking of taking up kick boxing OR yoga, now which would benefit me most?