The blethering goes on...thread 2

[ElephantOfRisk]

Still plenty to chat about. Remember this isn't fight club. Nice chatting required.....

Oh, exciting @shouldistop! Enjoy (oh, yes, you will!)

I must be a shit parent. I assumed that they are meant to do their uni work entirely by themselves so I've not even offered to read anything much less get someone more competent involved.

DS2 submitted his last piece of the term bang on the 5pm deadline yesterday but at least that's him done for the holidays. He seems to have celebrated with copious quantities of irn bru rather than cider. I think he's saving himself... 😁

@shouldistop

Panto today big ds and I are so excited.

"Oh no you're not!"

@ElephantOfRisk

I must be a shit parent. I assumed that they are meant to do their uni work entirely by themselves so I've not even offered to read anything much less get someone more competent involved.

DS2 submitted his last piece of the term bang on the 5pm deadline yesterday but at least that's him done for the holidays. He seems to have celebrated with copious quantities of irn bru rather than cider. I think he's saving himself... 😁

Dd only asked me to read her essay on risky outdoor play to see if she could add anything as my job is outdoors with children. Never been asked to do anything else. Although I used ds to make and edit videos in lockdown for the learning journeys.

@shouldistop

Panto today big ds and I are so excited.

Enjoy x

I must be in the shit parenting cohort as well @ElephantOfRisk

Enjoy the panto @shouldistop, we're going tomorrow (oh yes we are!)

@Lidlfix - you sound so similar to my mum - as well as having gone into teaching as a mature student and being, by all accounts, an inspirational English teacher ....that's why I thought of you

To be fair, on ds he always gives me a good few days to read/comment on his essays. He is so not his mother's son

@ElephantOfRisk - it's not shit parenting at all. Different strokes for different people. You give other support to your dses that I don't do (generally I'm a fairly negligent parent ).

I enjoy watching ds' English progress in its sophistication. Most of my comments are to do with punctuation and sometimes suggesting a different word (but he says he often doesn't accept the change). Occasionally I suggest he reworks a sentence as its meaning is not clear or ask him what he is trying to convey.

When I was at Uni I was in halls and I'd have asked my fellow students for advice/to bounce ideas around to find the right words.

I remember my mum proof reading my dissertation prior to it being typed up and bound (that's one expense that nowadays they don't need to incur ). Dissertations, unlike essays, are weighty (10,000 word) tomes that are "on the record" (unlike essays) so it's worthwhile trying to get them as polished as possible.

I can proofread but have no idea if the content is any good. 3 of 4 DDs are dyslexic and due to Covid DD2 and 3 haven't had anything like the support DD1 did from unis. They should be getting use of a professional proofreader, extended deadlines to facilitate this and a raft of ICT but as screening hasn't been carried out by unis they're not.

My knowledge of Communism in Cuba and Service User Voice in Social Work is zero. If I was a mechanic I'd look at their cars , I don't see any difference. I look at their pals' stuff too if they're worried because I can and why would I want them worrying? The flatmate whose DM is a GP gave DD3 a phone consultation because she knew she couldn't get an appointment and had the skills to help.

DD1 is a teacher and I don't write her reports, so they can cope without me .

At school, they wouldn't let me near their English as I was much harsher than their teachers.

And I'm not doing their work for them. Rather out of tone for blethering.

I am reasonably involved with school child.
But the one in 1st year Uni I haven't set eyes on a single piece of work!
Hadn't occurred to me i should.

I am also in the shit parent club

It wasn't an accusation! I never went to uni so I have no idea about is appropriate in terms of support. Neither DS has asked and I've not offered, I didn't realise there was an option to read over and point out grammar, punctuation etc

Though judging the amount of errors in my posts I'm sure they are better off without my input. 😁I was just thinking that this is another area of life where I've done my DC a disservice. 😔

I'm not planning to get involved in DSs university work when the time comes. But having said that, I hadn't planned to be co-authoring his Nat5 persuasive essay, yet here I am and by co-authored I'm being somewhat generous to DS, in truth I'd have the damned thing finished much quicker if he didn't insist on chipping in with his damn ideas

I don't think the support at Uni is very great at the moment either. DS2 did manage to get the extra time for his exams but he was supposed to contact them and arrange appointments but this is exactly the sort of stuff that his dyspraxia makes him struggle with. I emailed them way back when he was in 1st year and suggested that they just send him an appointment and he'll turn up, but they won't do that. So here we are he's now in 3rd year and doesn't have any of the things that they said would be available for him. He is doing well though so maybe they are right and leaving him to cope has worked? Who knows.

The proto-ham is on to boil. It's a monster: 4.88kg

Dh is still smarting for the p7 project on ww2 he did helped ds1 with. He only got a B

Dh was gutted. He tried really hard.

@prettybird

The proto-ham is on to boil. It's a monster: 4.88kg

Oh my

@prettybird

The proto-ham is on to boil. It's a monster: 4.88kg

Where do you get a pan big enough for that?

Braved the supermarket this morning - got the last punnet of strawberries - but it wasn't too bad overall.

And then spent the afternoon helping DD1 completely tidy her bedroom. She has become a bit of a hoarder out of anxiety, I think, so I helped her get rid of a lot of things. Her room has floor now.

@GrouchyKiwi - I bought a ginormous pan in a local Asian supermarket years ago. Most of the time it resides in the garage. If the leg I get is a bit smaller (it tends to be pot luck what size I get), I can usually fit it into a big stock pot that I have, that I keep on top of the kitchen cabinets.

That's nearly as big as my turkey (5.6kg), how many will that feed? Is that your main event pb or is there a bird too? I know you do Christmas dinner on the 24th.

I used to make mine tidy their bedrooms properly before Christmas because if Santa arrives and can see toys scattered and things not taken care off, he'll think you have too much and/or are careless and therefore won't leave any new toys.

I still try that with DSs (21 and 20) but they aren't buying that leaving empty beer/cider bottles in their room means that they won't get more for Christmas.

That’s about the weight DS was when he was born @ElephantOfRisk 🤣

@WouldBeGood

That’s about the weight DS was when he was born *@ElephantOfRisk* 🤣

I think we might have had this conversation before but I am rubbish with baby weights in kgs. DS1 was 9lb 13oz so think your DS was heavier?