Meeting itself was ok. I think they were trying to persuad him not to bother with Maths if he didn't think he needed it. I said I felt that he would ultimatley need it as no-one recognises Nat4 . He has really been let down by the new system I think as he would have got a standard grade much more easily although not at Credit level. Anyway I said I think he should do it but was okay with him leaving it to 6th year if it meant that left him with subjects he was engaged with and willing to work hard in. So we gave him the choice and he chose to do it in S5. She then rejigged his other columns and he's ended up with a crash Higher in geography instead of doing BM.
Ended up having a few harsh words with him in the car. To be honest, I'm not unconvinced that he may be depressed. He says he doesn't enjoy school, no-one helps, he says he knows he has to do stuff but sits not doing it and hating himself for not doing it. has no idea what he wants to do, finds it hard to be engaged or even pretend to be unless it's something really interesting. I've said to him that the way he acts/looks/moves means that people wont be keen to seek him out and help and that even pretending to enjoy something can help you to actually enjoy it. Not sure that went anywhere but he's come back and started to tidy his room.
Along with the harsh words, I did tell him that the reason I'm annoyed and frustrated is becauuse I care and I know he has ability and a lot to offer but he's in danger of not getting the future he could have.
He seemed to be unaware that there were options other than school at this point so i've told him that isn't the case and there were more than one way to skin a cat. The problem is that he doesn't know what he wants to do and hasn't looked either. Garrrrhhhhh!
I know I should count myself lucky (and I do) that he is very well behaved, he gives us no trouble at all, no smoking, drinking, drugs, hanging about on street corners etc. But on the other hand these years should be fun as well as about preparing for the future and there isn't a lot of that going on either.
Incidentally the medication for his skin can casue depression but his attitude etc predates that by a long time so i don't think it's that.
Lidl, I'm glad to hear that things are working out for your DD, maybe we need to cast the net a bit wider in terms of options for him.