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SAHM - Do you do all the school runs

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Cookskitchen · 13/03/2023 17:49

Just a quick question really.

What do other SAHP do?
As the SAHP do you do ALL the school runs. As in 5 days a week morning and afternoon?

I pretty much do, husband works 8.30-5 and is working from home but also travels with work I would say on average 3 days a week.
I am a SAHP, 3 kids 6,5 and 3 - I do a couple of social media/marketing things in the day, very much at mine owe will.

I’m just asking as someone comment on it, basically referring to my husband in a negative way. They questioned that they haven’t seen him in a while… ”does he ever help you with the kids?!” (Then sort of laughing!)
To which I didn’t really respond (Monday morning!)

Just to add I see the school runs as part of my “job” with the kids and my husband does and would help if needed/asked too.

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babbylonzoo · 13/03/2023 17:51

If my husband is WFH ( 50% of the time ) then he will do both school runs.

If he's in the office, I do them.

babbylonzoo · 13/03/2023 17:52

He likes to do it by the way, that's not me making him.

arethereanyleftatall · 13/03/2023 17:52

Since he's working on all school run times, you'd have to, wouldn't you?

theseriousmoonlight · 13/03/2023 17:54

Yes, I do but our circumstances are slightly different. My DP works 8am to 5pm when he's not on call. Then (like 3 days this week and 4 days next week) he'll be working 7.30 - 9pm.

School, nursery runs and after school commitments are my 'job'.

Fiveinthebed22 · 13/03/2023 17:55

Surely that’s one of the main benefits of being a SAHP, to not have to rely on anyone for childcare.

I’m a SAHP for a few reasons, DH works from home but would only do the school run if he was off or I was very ill, otherwise it doesn’t make sense

PuttingDownRoots · 13/03/2023 17:56

If DH had a day off he would do them. He often had Friday afternoons off, so would pick them up then.

They are older now... but share evening extra curricular activities if he is home. (Our activity schedule is completely designed for me being able to do it all since he travels for work. There's an odd time things clash, like this Friday I have to drop one off at Scout camp at the exact same time as picking the other up from Rugby but I manage it somehow)

3littlebeans · 13/03/2023 17:57

Well he's working from.8.30- 5so how could he?Just say he's working.

I didnt see most kids dad in the 7 years of school runs I did outside of the odd certificate assembly/nativity.

Now mine are at secondary and we both work we share the school runs.

HareintheBluebells · 13/03/2023 17:57

I did them all when I was a SAHP. Part of the role, surely, unless your other half is keen?

Anotherturnipforthebooks · 13/03/2023 17:57

How could he do it if he's working at school drop off and collection time?

stealthninjamum · 13/03/2023 18:02

I am a separated sahp who has always done all the school runs.

I very much saw it as my job but when I was doing the primary school run I sometimes saw dads doing a school run (perhaps wife was away, sick, taking another child somewhere) or watching a netball match during the day.

So some dads will arrange their day to do these things to spend time with their kids and will presumably just work later afterwards. I think they’re more likely to have a good bond with their dc and just an understanding of the family dynamics. So yes it is your job but you could ask if your dh wants to help to benefit him.

katsue · 13/03/2023 18:05

A bit different for us, I'm not a SAHM but am on maternity. My DH actually does all drop offs as we kept breakfast club going. I get the kids ready but he delivers them as I'm more high maintenance about leaving the house 😂

I do all collections but he would if I specifically asked (like for an appointment) and he was around.

fuzzbearpenguin · 13/03/2023 18:06

I'd assume that the school runs were part of the job of being a sahp?

JustFrustrated · 13/03/2023 18:07

It's literally the role of the SAHP to do school runs/childcare etc

I did them all when I was a SAHM.

Now we both work full time, and both WFH, if a school run needs doing, it's usually him as I start earlier.

We both attend all events as much as we can, sometimes together, sometimes seperately, sometimes neither of us

eatdrinkandbemerry · 13/03/2023 18:08

No
My partner works early and lates alternate weeks.
So he does a week of drop offs or a week of pick ups and I do the others

PuttingDownRoots · 13/03/2023 18:09

Actually I used to see a lot of fathers at the school pick up... shift workers who finished at 2pm!

Dinosauratemydaffodils · 13/03/2023 18:10

The days he's working from home and doesn't have a meeting, he might take dc2 to preschool or pick her up. Dc1 takes to himself to school.

Magentax · 13/03/2023 18:11

I very much saw it as my job but when I was doing the primary school run I sometimes saw dads doing a school run (perhaps wife was away, sick, taking another child somewhere) or watching a netball match during the day.

Perhaps wife was (GASP!) at work?

Magentax · 13/03/2023 18:13

Anyway to answer the question. My DH works part time for himself and is pretty much a SAHP. He can do them all but I like to do some if I can - normally manage at least one on days I am WFH.

Colourinsidethelines · 13/03/2023 18:14

I’m the SAHP and I do 90-100% of school runs depending on the week. DH works 7-3 so if he is in the office he isn’t here. If he is working at home which does once sometimes twice a week he might do a school run on those days if he isn’t logged onto a meeting at that time. Same as you do I some freelance work but I do that whenever suits me so school runs are my job!

LunchBoxPolice · 13/03/2023 18:16

I’m a SAHP and see the school run as part of my “job description”.

GoldenGorilla · 13/03/2023 18:19

If he’s going in that direction anyway, or I was sick, then he would do it. But I see school runs as part of my job. So he would do it if there was a reason to, not just to take turns doing it if you see what I mean.

Mumdiva99 · 13/03/2023 18:19

School runs and all associated school tasks were my domain (mostly still are - although kids are older and walk themselves and I work....).

Daffodilfrog · 13/03/2023 18:21

Yes I do - if the weather is bad or I was Ill and he was wfh and not on calls he would offer ..

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Cookskitchen · 13/03/2023 18:21

He does do the school run when needed/
or if I just even asked him to. If I’m sick, a child is sick or I will leave the 3 year old home if it’s a gloomy day and I nip in the car rather than walk.
He would do it he’s off, or we would go together even. Also, if his out with work and it happens to be school pick up time. Will do later collections if I need to do 2 different times pick ups and don’t want to hang around.
So it not like he never does it.
He’s is totally involved parent with the kids!

I shouldn’t have listened to the women this morning - she loves a sly dig at people I’ve started to notice 😂 Maybe she is also protecting he own worries (I don’t mean that in a bitchy way)

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iwontforgetyoumyfriendwhathappened · 13/03/2023 18:22

My husband works from home full time and does most of the school runs tbh. I collect them from school maybe once or twice a week at most but primarily it's my hubby who does it.
He also makes dinner every night and gives the kids their breakfast in the morning.

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