SAHM - Do you do all the school runs

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Just a quick question really.

What do other SAHP do?
As the SAHP do you do ALL the school runs. As in 5 days a week morning and afternoon?

I pretty much do, husband works 8.30-5 and is working from home but also travels with work I would say on average 3 days a week.
I am a SAHP, 3 kids 6,5 and 3 - I do a couple of social media/marketing things in the day, very much at mine owe will.

I’m just asking as someone comment on it, basically referring to my husband in a negative way. They questioned that they haven’t seen him in a while… ”does he ever help you with the kids?!” (Then sort of laughing!)
To which I didn’t really respond (Monday morning!)

Just to add I see the school runs as part of my “job” with the kids and my husband does and would help if needed/asked too.

I’m amazed when people ask this.
There is so much to do!

I'm a sahm with a reception aged DC and a 6 month old.
DH works full time but does the school drop off every day and also picks him up after school twice a week, meaning I only do 3 after school pick ups when DH is at work.
Purely because DH WANTS to do it, I offer every day but he works weekends and has two days off midweek, so doesn't get a dedicated day off with our reception DC (whereas I get all day sat and Sunday with them and before/after school) and DH only sees them for 30 mins before there bedtime once he gets home from work.
DH sees the 5 minute walk to school as treasured special time with DC, he's looking for another job so he can have weekends off but nothing suitable thus far so this time together is so special to them both as they really don't get alot of time together.
To outsiders who don't know our family schedule it probably looks weird but who cares! We do what works for us, I would in normal circumstances expect the sahm to do the vast majority of the school runs though 🤷

@JulietBrown I still have my youngest at home with me until he starts preschool in September, I just all the “domestic” stuff at home - again kind of see this as my job at the moment (again husband is completely doing his fare share)
I do work in social media marketing so will ramp that up once he goes.
I became a SAHM after my 2nd went to school, before that I worked at one point full, then par-time, flexi time and now I’m technically self employed but at my owe will - will just take in more ad brands as and when.
The main reason to stop paid traditional 9-5 employment was the cost of childcare and the fact my husband goes away most weeks so the juggling of getting kids ready, myself to work and a hours commute for myself just didn’t work for us.

I’m a lone parent so do all the school runs, no one has ever commented on it or asked why my ex doesn’t do it 🤷‍♀️

I was a stay at home mother until my daughter was 9 and then went back to work part time to fit in with school hours. My husband was unemployed and was based at home and I would never have expected him to do the school run because it was always during working hours.

DH does one drop off a week - it’s an early one for a before school club so fits with his work hours. He will also collect DC from a late finishing after school club once a week. Normal school run times, he’s at work.

This is a huge improvement on his previous work hours when the DC were younger - he was working 14 hr days and barely saw them in the week. Which is a large part of why I’m a SAHM.

Just to add I see the school runs as part of my “job” with the kids and my husband does and would help if needed/asked too.

I agree, that's one of the reason being a sahp.

Yes except for Friday pm

I find a breezy “well it works for us!” is a good response to these kind of sly prying comments. Sounds like you have a good balance already and you’re happy he’s doing his part, so don’t stress about it.

Yes I did
Husband was at work

@Growlybear83 unemployed or self employed?

Mostly me when they were younger as he worked away for large stretches but now they are at the top of secondary dh does it a lot as he now wfh. People tend to focus on what’s wrong in their lives and it’s nothing to do with yours.

Odd comment from woman. A sly dig think, sone people are so scathing to SAHP. When I was one I had one friend who used to say "oh how lovely " I'm such an eye roll way. We make our own choices for our families

Yes I'm a sahp yes I do all the school runs as I'm at home and hubby is at work 🙄 tell People to keep their beak out.

My DH is a SAHD and I work from home. He does more school runs than me, sometimes all if I am having a stressful week. I sometimes worry people think I am being a lazy parent then remind myself I am working! He is happy to as he sees it as his job. Most SAHMs at my school do all the school runs and nobody bats an eyelid.

i do them all. Dh leaves for work at 4/5am every morning and isn’t home till tea time. If he does get to be home early he comes with me to collect DD

I’m part time (3 days spread over 5) and could do all the school runs but my DH does half. I think it’s important for the kids and for him to be a fully present parent. I know it sounds very morbid but if something happened to me then I wouldn’t want my DH to have such a steep learning curve in terms of caring for our children. But obviously some people’s jobs can’t accommodate it.

So you do work part time?
When I was SAHM I didn't do all the school run because my DH had a flexible job where he would do 2 or even 3 days a week of as he knew how much I hated the school run and he didn't mind it at all.

We both work and he had to do the morning one as I started early anyway - when my daughter started primary 16 years ago he was only one of 3 dads helping the school run out of 60 children. With my youngest the mix was much more 50/50 when she started 10 years ago.

But his Dad also did the school pick up as a shift worker his Dad did an early shift, so was happy to do it - so it fairly normal for him & when I spoke to my fil he said there was a few Dads similar as parents often worked opposite shifts etc this was 45 years ago!

Oops - that should have been self employed!