Partner will not help financially:(

[Zaramcdhy]

Hi guys, so I really need some advice. I have been with my partner for approx 4 years, we live together and I have one son (partner not bio father). We both work full time and earn approx the same each month. My partner does not contribute properly financially towards household costs, I pay all rent, council tax, gas & elec, tv, childcare! My partner pays around 250 pound per month (my car and insurance payment) and sometimes contributes towards food. In total my outgoings per month are around 850 pounds and I am seriously struggling. He owns an expensive sports car which on top of the finance payment costs around 350 pounds per month in fuel! He continuously runs out of money before next payday and looks to me for money and stupidly I have been allowing this. I’ve tried everything to make him see this is not fair and I cannot continue to live like this but he will not change, he promises to but then doesn’t. The house is in my name as I cannot trust him enough financially to do this joint. what would you do in my position?

He's not just a cocklodger he's a thief!

He is STEALING food from your child's mouth! Does that help you find the motivation to get rid?

Take the £250 he pays each month

Deduct what he's COSTING you in

Loans
Food & other groceries (cleaning eqpt toiletries etc)
Gas & elec
Increased council tax
Wear and tear on YOUR furniture and fittings
Increased debt he's cost you...

I'll bet all that comes to more than £250!!!

Go on

www.entitledto.co.uk/benefits-calculator/Intro/Home?cid=75c274c3-0591-406d-94df-ba7d8008b4fa

Or

www.turn2us.org.uk

To see what difference it would make if you were single in terms of benefits and tax credits etc

Go on

www.moneysavingexpert.com

And get advice on the debts in fact I'd highly recommend posting your exact financial situation on the forum there and LISTEN to the advice given.

Change the locks - and get GOOD secure locks fitted not crappy Yale but deadbolts AND a chain for when you're home, because I wouldn't put it past this chancer to rob you blind!!

I'm also seconding what lollypop said about asking for help from any big burly guys you know or the police if necessary. I certainly wouldn't think twice in your shoes about asking my bro to help out (big 6'+ fuck off police officer) or even good strong assertive girlfriends, but then I'm not one to be messed with myself (underestimate a short angry Scotswoman at your peril) and if a friend of mine were in this situation I'd happily help her out with my presence.

Please tell me he has gone.

He needs to leave, he can live in his precious car

Has he gone yet OP?

He stole 50 pounds from my sons Christmas money which he promised to replace. He hasn’t.

So not only is he a lazy, deceitful, selfish sponger, he STOLE from your child. I really can't think of anything that would enrage me more than someone stealing from my child, it's a scummy, appalling thing to do.

Yesterday you said he'd be leaving as soon as he got up. So is he gone?

My first thought was he’s on drugs

I doubt his company is worth the money he’s costing you

Get rid

Please tell us you’ve kicked him out?