Does anyone else have to pick their partners underwear off the floor?

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Basically just got told that he didn't see why I should have a problem with this because I don't do anything else anymore.... I'm extremely hurt. I really feel he resents me for being a SAHP. Our DC is 8 months old.

I had to do this with my ex and it drove me mad. To the point I ended things with him (not just for that reason but more his general lack of help with anything around the house ever).
Is he that incapable of putting them inside a laundry basket or the washing machine? It’s hardly strenuous work for him to do. I hate this notion that some people have that SAHMs just lounge around all day and have easy lives

My DH leaves his laundry on the floor. I leave it there. He eventually moves it when he needs it washed. I'm not his servant so I refuse to pick up after him.

Then you need a proper talk, don't let it turn into an argument about dirty knickers and give him a rollicking about not talking to you properly.

He needs to understand you've grown and produced HIS kid and what would he suggest then have a chat about cleaning up against a fully grown adult and why it isn't your job to pick up after him.

No, I leave it there and he puts it in the washing machine.

@Fitzsimmons my DP does this, mostly with socks, they're all over the living room. I just leave them there to make a point.

No. You don't have to, you might choose to though. I always chose not to, he wasn't my child.

If DH started doing that then I would just leave them on the floor. I am not a maid. Not a SAHP but on maternity leave.

DH understands that it's hard work looking after a baby so doesn't expect housework to be done.

What a child! Push his dirty underwear to his side of the bed and leave it there. Let him run out. No one needs to pick up another adult’s dirty clothes at all, unless there is illness/disability.

My girlfriend leaves her clothes wherever she removed them.
I'm always collecting bras in the living room

I had this until I started to pile them up in the bottom of his wardrobe he soon stopped doing it. X

Yes but only because he is genuinely unable too.

Even if you did have nothing else to do, it doesn’t follow that you become his servant.

You are your own person, you don’t need to account to him for your time, he’s not your boss or your keeper.

I put the endless socks from the living room, boxers from the bedroom floor, and T shirts from the bathroom floor in a pile on his bedside table. I tell him when I'm putting on the laundry so he can choose to add any items.

I do throw away the endless stream of used tissues he leaves all over the house, though, as I just can't bear looking at them.

And I move his dirty cups and plates to the kitchen, so we don't get infestations in the dining room. If he's home then obviously I tell him to do it.

Nobody has to do this
I was a sahp for 25 years and didn't pick up underwear.
FFS you are there to look after your child/ren not to slave after him, why on earth did you do it the first time?

how long do other DH's leave their stuff on the floor for out of interest to those of you that use to leave it. Was it just a week or so?

I just ignore it if it is in the bedroom, or kick it down his side of the bed if it annoys me, because it is out of sight there. I will never pick it up. If I am feeling particularly generous I might give him a heads up that I am catching up on laundry if we are going away etc. Sometimes it is there for probably 2/3 weeks, but he puts it in the basket eventually (when he is running out of clothes I suppose).

I do gather anything he leaves downstairs and throw it on top of the rest of his stuff in the bedroom for him to deal with.

Oh, just step over her shitty pants. Honestly, don’t pock them up, he’ll soon learn.

My DH leaves socks and pants lying around. I don't touch them, don't even mention them. Til he asks me why he hasn't got any clean pants or socks. Then I ask him if he put them in the basket to be washed. He says erm probably not but where are they then? Don't know says I, not my belongings, why not try looking for them? Then leave him too it. Took about 2-3 months but he very very rarely leaves them lying around anymore.

It is better than peeling them off the ceiling

Mine has given up wearing pants .
Frequently leaves socks around the house though.

I could be working 23 hours a day and dh could be at home all day and his only job could be laundry, I would have enough respect for him to put my own dirty underwear in the laundry basket instead of telling him he shouldn't have a problem picking my used underwear up for me.

Its rank and disrespectful regardless of how many hours he works. Even if you've agreed to do all the housework, or if you've agreed to do the bare minimum, he doesn't get to tell you that he can drop his dirty underwear where he wants to and you have to be ok picking it up for him.

Women telling their husbands they shouldn't have a problem picking up their dirty knickers up all the time because he's at home more are just as disrespectful.

I can't imagine deliberately leaving dirty underwear about for anyone to pick up, can understand an odd time in a rus, in which case you'd apologise. To turn round and more or less say you shouldn't complain and be happy to pick his dirty underwear up for him shows disrespect in my opinion.

Dh would leave his in bathrooom floor when we first got together, not just pants, his whole work clothes, they'd be ok the floor touching the laundry basket ffs, I had a rule if it's not the ok the laundry basket, I'm not washing it. He just washed the stuff himself when he needed it doing and realised talking an extra three seconds to put in basket like everyone else in house saved him rushing about on a Sunday evening washing work clothes.

My ex was a lazy minger who would disrespectfully leave his underwear on floor.

Just before I left him, I let it pile up for the last time and popped it all in the wheely bin

Maybe it's because I grew up with 5 sisters or something ( I was the younger brother)? But I'm the house proud one who leaves everything spotless.
I clean the shower after each use and leave the sink spotless after a shave. My girlfriend doesn't even rinse her toothpaste spit down the plug hole