Moving in Retirement

[Cauliflower65]

I’ve been living in a village for over 30 years now. Im almost retired. It’s a desirable one in the area I live in ( a home county) but has mixed memories for me as although my kids were brought up here ( happy memories) my previous marriage broke down here too . I also worked here for many years which again has good and bad memories . Im now remarried living in the same place . The good points - I know lots of people , it’s a safe environment , it has good walks, decent amenities for a village and is near towns etc . However Im just a bit bored with it . I feel like there may be another chapter? Anyone in a similar position - did you move ? Did you move nearer to adult DC or just do your own thing? Should I just be content with what I’ve got?

I put HUGE value on knowing your community.

I would not want to live rurally as I move towards old age.

So I'm right on the fence here

But, if you are thinking moving would be a good idea, I'd say the younger and fitter you are when you do it, means the more likely it is to be a 'good' move. As long, that is, as you are people who are prepared to put yourselves out there and join the new community you move to. Waiting until you feel you 'need to' doesn't seem like a good plan to me.

Good point @Freshrain being younger definitely preferable 💯

If you feel like this now, move. It will be a new chapter. As you are nearing retirement I would be led by how you see yourself living your life after work. Unless you can afford multiple moves in retirement, make it as future proof as possible too. I would also do it after I had retired, so I knew the reality rather than just my imagined version.

Thanks @GOODCAT interesting point about ‘future proofing’ .

Could you rent your house out and rent somewhere you fancy living for a while to see how it feels?

The idea of renting is certainly worth considering @Hopefulsalmon

What does your DH think about moving?

He's not adverse to it AnOldCynic but doesn't feel as strongly as me about need for a change . Having said that he’s only lived here the last 10 years with me.

I think I would frame as what as a couple do you want the rest your life to look like? Maybe write up the pros and cons for leaving/staying put. Then if leaving looks like a strong possibility explore the pros and cons of different places/lifestyles.

Treat the thinking about it as a serious project rather than just musing? Whatever you decide I wish you the best.

Sound advice AnOldCynic

We feel the same, been here 30 years. We are rural and would like something with more going on. Especially a cafe and pub within walking distance. We feel a bit bored and stifled to be honest.
Would be nice to have an adventure and to downsize the house/build a new garden up.
The thing that holds us back is that the kids were born here and like to come back. They all still have their childhood bedrooms here and the neighbours have watched them grow up.
Both DH and I still had our childhood bedrooms until we were in our late 40s. It was bloody traumatic clearing them after our parents died though.

i get this LancashireButterPie .
Yes the kids needs are a tricky one . Some of my friends have just retired to wherever they fancy and left the kids to leave their own lives . Im not sure personally in this .