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Original poster

Off on hoilday with the in laws in a week... could you do it?

64 replies

tightwad · 03/07/2010 18:50

Could you? For 2 weeks?

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jpg · 03/07/2010 18:52

yes, well I have and survived, can't say I enjoyed it though have to do 1 week this year,

duckyfuzz · 03/07/2010 18:52

We did once

Never again

skymoo · 03/07/2010 18:54

Yes (if I had any, that is) seeing as I won't be going anywhere due to lack of funds for about the 10th year running!

RupertTheBear · 03/07/2010 18:54

I did a fortnight with mine and although it wasn't as bad as I was expecting I wouldn't be rushing to do it again...

compo · 03/07/2010 18:57

No

after three nights with mil I start making snidey comments in my head and my relationship with dh is severely strained
two weeks and we'd be divorcing
I need small doses in the inlaws and my own space without the incessant wittering
luckiky dh feels the same way about his parents
when he phones mil tells him something, then he talks to his dad and he tells him the exact same thing
it drives him bananas...

NorbertDentressangle · 03/07/2010 18:57

Have done it for 2 weeks once and, for a week, a few times.

Its generally been fine however we've been fortunate to stay in the sort of place where we've had space. I couldn't stand it if we were all crammed in somewhere without our own rooms ( a room for them, a room for us, a room for the DC) to disappear to. In the last place in France we were even lucky enough to have 2 living rooms on top of a kitchen and dining room so plenty of places to escape to for some time-out!

Also they don't mind us disappearing off with the DC for a day out. They don't expect us to do everything with them day-in, day-out.

They also give us time-off by babysitting whilst we go out for a meal which is really good of them.

PaulineCampbellJones · 03/07/2010 19:03

We did with PIL and SIL family for a couple of years. Was great as we all flew from different places and let each other have space whilst there. None of us live near each other so it's nice to spend time together. Have got to say though, we do also have a week to ourselves somewhere which is good for DH and I. Our first holiday with DD will also be by ourselves.

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tightwad · 03/07/2010 19:04

We are off to Florida.

we are in a huge villa with 3 living rooms etc and intend on going out for the day to a park with them, but seperating and meeting up at tea time.

They never ever babysit for us, BUT i intend on demanding that they do for one night while we are away so we can go out, the two of us for a nice meal.

I will be 40 while we are there, so not allot to ask i think. ds is 7 so not exsactly hard work....

on the whole i get on with them, but find them irritating after a while.

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tightwad · 03/07/2010 19:05

lol compo, i get those snidey thoughts in my head too

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mollymax · 03/07/2010 19:08

I could do it, as long as they did not take their baby dog with them

NorbertDentressangle · 03/07/2010 19:08

tightwad -sounds like it should be OK. You have the space to not be in each others pockets at the villa which will help immensely.

Just be sure, before you go, that they are clear that you won't be spending every waking hour with them and be joined at the hip on your days out!

And, yes, get them to babysit...more than once!

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tightwad · 03/07/2010 19:11

only spanner in the works is bil, who is 35 and has never ever been abraod before and likes a drink and sleeping in till 4pm when off work. is single.

We have specified that we will not be hanging round waiting for him, we will be up n out.

i did suggest that they hire a car but they dont want to, so we have one big car.

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NorbertDentressangle · 03/07/2010 19:17

oh god, don't wait around for him otherwise you won't see anything.

SIL and her boyfriend are a bit like that. They tend to be just about ready to start the day as we get back after a day out with the DC.

Luckily they're not narked that we've been out as it suits them to have some peace and quiet for their lie-in.

Do your own thing -remember its your holiday as much as anyone elses so you don't want to look back and have regrets about things you wished you'd done.

lazarusb · 03/07/2010 19:59

No. Did it once for a week. Was furious 90% of the time.

yomellamoHelly · 03/07/2010 20:26

We've done it since our first ds was born 6 years ago. As years have gone by increasingly just get on with it and they fit in or we do it anyway. Also always factor in a wedge of time on my own away from everybody (generally 20 minute swim) to get some headspace. Helps keep a sense of perspective.

wifyhome · 03/07/2010 20:27

noooooooooooo never did and never will lol!

Flisspaps · 03/07/2010 20:56

Will be taking note of the advice here...we're going away with PIL, GPIL and SIL/BIL soon

MarshaBrady · 03/07/2010 20:57

Nope, definitely not. I can do an hour or two.

traceybath · 03/07/2010 20:58

Probably provided we didn't have to share a bathroom and I got plenty of time without them.

Blackduck · 03/07/2010 20:59

Did it for a week - surprised I didn't kill them - never again....(but know for a fact dp would say same about my family - and he has only ever been forced to suffer a long weekend....)

cyteen · 03/07/2010 21:00

I have done it, a week in Devon with PIL plus SIL and her family. I love my inlaws Tbf they are a lot like Norbert's - very laidback, free with the babysitting offers, not requiring us to be in each other's pockets. Therefore it was lovely. In fact, DP proposed while we were there!

toccatanfudge · 03/07/2010 21:01

oh yes - definitely not a problem (although I'm talking exIL's here as we're no longer together)....

2 weeks with my family

no way in hell

LucyJones · 03/07/2010 21:03

Problem spots are:
how many bathrooms are needed
what time kids get up compared to older retired people who lie in
fussy eaters and the mug who ends up cooking every night
washing up woes
those who want to be out all day vs those who want to sunbathe all day
what to do in evening when kids have gone to bed

LucyJones · 03/07/2010 21:04

Oh and most important thing money
some tight sod won't put enough in the food kitty

cyteen · 03/07/2010 21:05

Toccata, what a thought. Two weeks with my family One or all of us would be dead by the weekend, or in jail.

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