Red flags - warning signs for people to avoid

[Janos]

There was an excellent thread on this fairly recently, which unfortunately I can't find and I think this topic is worth a re-hash! Think it may be Reality who started it.

I was reminded of this and how important it is to trust your instincts with behaviour that makes you feel uncomfortable after going on a date at the weekend. As dates go it was pleasant, but there was no spark.

Anyhow I got an email from 'datee' a day later suggesting I have a look at something I might be interested in. I thought hmm, I'll have a look at that when I have a moment and left it there.

The next time I log into the site (following day) I was really quite shocked to get an unpleasant message. I won't rehash it here but the tone essentially was "how utterly dare you not reply to me?!"

It left me thinking, well I wasn't sure about seeing you again but well done, now I really don't want to see you again EVER you pompous git. Now this is a response I could understand from a friend but not someone I have been on ONE DATE with.

Any contributions welcome here by the way.

Same here Kerala -- crazymaking. (Nice to see things worked out well for you too)

Mind games. He calls you and texts you whenever he wishes. refuses to pick up the phone or text back, yet pretending everything is fine.

Some excellent red flags on this thread. I hope I don't meet any of these people.

I agree with the rudeness one. I've heard it referred to as The Waitress Test. If he is rude or patronising to the waitress on your date, run, because that's how he'll be talking to you in six months.

Most of this is about men. Many must apply to women too.
There must be many that are more likely to apply to women.

If I was a man I would run a mile from any woman who claimed to prefer animals to humans.

And a woman who claimed to get on better with men than women

And anyone who made a HUGE deal about being afraid of spiders/flying/gladioli, whatever.

Anyone who is a member of PETA

Only because most of us are women, librium. By your logic, Paul McCartney should never have got together with Heather Mills. Oh, hang on...

true Portia, and about Paul and Heather

I would like to hear a male viewpoint on the red flags thing,but maybe men don't discuss that stuff!

It's not gender exclusive librium, most stuff will be about men because most posters here are women like portia says.

Plenty can be applied to both genders - off the top of my head - racist/sexist 'jokes', the waitress test, all exes are bitches/bastards and to blame etc.

"most stuff will be about men because most posters here are women " Straight women. Because most posters here are straight women.