anyone fancy joining me in a heal-thy-relationship with an inlaw thread?

[swottybetty]

... making an effort, seeing their side of the story etc etc?

i'd like to make a bigger effort with my brother and SIL. at the moment, my relationship with them is kind of non-existant. See each other three times a year, even though we all live in london and have same age kids.

i get pissed off at the smallest things about them - it's my problem really. i mean, they are not perfect and don't make any huge effort either.

a good comparison is dh's relationship with his sister. she has huge expectations of him (and therefore us) which at times we find hard to fulfil. However cause she does so much of the legwork to make sure we all meet quite a lot, we have now have something great going on. again, she has kids same age as ours and they are all very close (and they live 200miles away).

someone join me?

I'll join in, i have alot of inlaws!

1st BIL & his wife.... drive me mad and have been really horrible to us because they have really struggled to have children, have had a really hard time and lost four babies . Currently expecting and things are looking promising so i'm going to forgive and forget and start trying to build up our once very good relationship.

2nd BIL & his wife...get on great so no problems really

3rd BIL & his wife...really don't like them, try really hard but get nothing back. Maybe i should try harder or maybe they should

are they all your DP/H's brothers?

poor 1st BIL and wife

Yes they all are and he has sisters as well but they are all ok.

BIL & his wife have had an awful time but it looks like after lots of IVF and a very sad few years they might actually get the baby they have been wishing for. I really hope so