Ok, I'm not a parent yet, but use this site a lot. Have name changed for this.
I'm 23, DP is 44. We've been together 7 years (yesterday).
Everything was wonderful for ages, despite the age gap. It really was. But recently, I just feel completely unhappy and stressed.
DP drinks a lot, and seems recently to rely on it more. He drinks after work, and nowadays he doesn't call me or answer my calls, he just strolls in whenever he's finished in the pub. I think that he should at least let me know if he's not going to be home until 9/10. He says I'm trying to control his life/I'm telling him what to do.
Yesterday (our anniversary) I cooked a nice meal and bought him a lovely card. Nothing from him, not a phone call, a text, a card, a cuddle... He said that to make up for it he would take me out for a meal tonight. Well he's just arrived home, drunk, I've been calling him all night. He says that he didn't say that and that I'm attention seeking because I was crying.
I feel insignificant, worthless, pointless to him. But I love him. I can't help it, I just love him. I feel like he might change one day and be like he was before.
Is love enough? Surely if I love him, then it's worth it? He says he loves me, and that he shouldn't have to keep saying/showing it. I should just know.
I've never told anyone how I feel. I guess just writing it down is a huge thing. Any advice would be really appreciated.