Has anyone helped themselves by stopping negative self-talk.

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Something a wise fellow MNer posted on another thread has really struck a chord with me- she suggested that when struggling "you can help yourself, by being very lovely to you and praising yourself a lot".

Obviously this is not the answer to everyone's problems but I am becoming aware that my thoughts about myself and my actions are really negative. I sort of talk to myself in a really critical way- its my 'natural' way so to speak.

I am beginning to realise this is damaging my self esteem and allowing others (particularly EXDP and my mum) to make me feel at fault, when in reality, often I am not (God its hard to say I'm not at fault).

I have learnt this from my Mum- she loves me to pieces but her criticism is constant!!

I have asked for a lot of help here recently, so sorry to do it again, but can anyone give me any insight into how I could start to turn this negative voice off. I know no-one likes a self-important show off, but I am beginning to realise that the only person who can help me with my battered self-esteem is myself!!

Any help gratefully received!!

don't think i can help much and it seems im a bit late with my response,,read Psalms 139,this has nothing to do with whether one is a believer or not,coz there is a verse which says,you ARE FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE,and that makes you unique,one of a kind,,there is absolutely no one like you out there,,that verse has seen me thru the worst,i just keep telling myself that hey,,i AM a MASTERPIECE,,hope you guys are doing ok,,

don't think i can help much and it seems im a bit late with my response,,read Psalms 139,this has nothing to do with whether one is a believer or not,coz there is a verse which says,you ARE FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE,and that makes you unique,one of a kind,,there is absolutely no one like you out there,,that verse has seen me thru the worst,i just keep telling myself that hey,,i AM a MASTERPIECE,,hope you guys are doing ok,,

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ItsGrace thanks for moodgym link. Have completed the first module! Found it interesting that I described my good traits as kind and caring. Asked boyfriend and he said kind and loving. I have often been a doormat in life and think I need to work on other qualities besides kindness.
Really useful to reflect on myself.

Good for you, Isanotherday, it sounds as though you're really using it well. What you said about "caring" - me, too! All good, but very important to put that in its proper place as you say.

LittleMissHissyFit, thank you for your Aldi story. I love the picture of you lurking by the trolleys, talking yourself round! Hope your Cooler Self is in charge this weekend