Should I ring my mum?

[Disenchanted3]

I posted a thread about a car, here if anyone can be bothered

My mum has been telling people DH shouted at her and he didn't

I've called her to be told she is eating and will ring me back, she never did (she usually just takes the call to say hi, eating or not)

I hate not talking to he but I feel like I've already tried to call her and shes not interested so why should I keep trying to hand out the olive branch?

Me and my sister are fine BTW.

I hate not talking to my mum, I really do but she won't see any problem with her behaviour and if I try to talk about it, then she will go off on one again!

I have no idea, but it would be better perhaps if you called around and kept yourself very very calm.

I can't she lives an hour away by bus.

I'd maybe give it a couple of days (give yourself time to calm down) then try again. I read your other thread and it seems like your mum was being totally unreasonable but at least if you try to talk to her then you're the one being a grown up about it.

Hmmmm can you put it in writing, not an accusation or an argument (make take a lot of rewriting).

Just a "I can understand you were upset because you wanted to help dsis out and you thought we were be difficult"

"We spent £200 on sorting out the car so really needed to sell it to get back some of the money with dh losing his job money is really tight."

"Had you asked us to give it to dsis we would have probably thought it through and given it to her, but as we were already in the process of selling it we were very shocked and over reacted"

Something like that ie not having a go at her perse.

You know your Mum best and whether that would just add fuel to the fire or not!

I wouldn´t-she´s treated you appallingly imo.

Agree with diddle. Sorry but Ive read the other thread too, and your mum's a bully. You are standing up to her and she doesnt like it....one little bit.
let 'her' sweat for once, you've done nothing wrong.
I'm guessing this is a pattern that's been repeated over and over.

Agree with diddl and smithfield having read th eother thread. Your mum is being a manipulative bully.

Has she done this sort of thing before?